It's been a while since I've been here. Things are as always touch and go. One minute, we're doing really good, next minute, we're getting divorced. He did call my mom the other night (Tues) to tell her that he loved me but is done trying. He told her all kinds of complaints about me and basically that he's tried, I haven't and it's over. My mom of course told me this. My reaction? I'm OK. Whatever happens, I'll be OK. I don't want a divorce, but I also don't want my husband back the way he is...NO WAY! He's refused that he has a problem (namely, anger and controlling) or that he needs help of any kind. I'm over this. He showed me his anger again Monday night when he asked me to go to the store to pick up some things HE wants (the soda that only HE drinks, the cheese only HE likes, etc...) I kindly told him that I already went to the store the day before, and I was no longer shopping as if he still lives there...because he doesn't. No doubt his mother would be more than happy to stock her house with all of his favorite foods (OK I didn't say that part). But, I did tell him that I had already gone to the store and we had everything the kids and I need. He was mad about that, then we had a huge blowout about letting the baby cry (something I just can't do). He was standing between the babys door and me, and wouldn't let me past. I was crying, saying "please, let me comfort my son. Let me in there". I tried to duck past him and he grabbed my shirt, it tore, and I fell to the ground. He was angry, told me that I'm crazy, hysterical, off-balance, hormonal, not-right" This carried on for awhile, till I grabbed the phone, and said, "if you don't let me have my baby, I will call the police" (there goes your job, big boy). This was not an impulse reaction. I begged to get to the baby for the past 10min. All the while, he was physically restraining me so I couldn't get into the room. Not to mention, my poor baby was going to have surgery the next day, I wanted to comfort him, and be with him.
He wants a divorce? Well, I'd be more than happy for the controlling, angry person that my husband has become to be gone! More than happy!
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Please be careful, this guy is so unbalanced it is scary. He truly is in la-la land. Tell him you'll issue a restraining order if he touches you again.
Does he know in what kind of sh*t he'd be if you were to go to a lawyer and get him for abandoning the home? (my H runned to a L 2 days after he left when he learned he could be in DEEP crap for leaving the house, he didnt' know that).
Take care please.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
I wouldn't say he abanded the home. I asked him to leave, and he's still paying the bills.
Hoping for some sort of light bulb to go on with him in counseling. I've asked for anger management classes and he's denied. He says I have "mood swings". Well, yes, I'd say my mood does swing when you prevent me from comforting my baby, yell at me for everything, call me names in front of the kids, interupt me when I try to talk, lecture me, etc... Yep, I'm totally unbalanced at times.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Well, legal wise I don't believe it would matter whether you asked him to leave or he left on his own. He left and for the lawyers he abandoned. Yeah I know, it sucks for those of us that were asked to leave....
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
