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God H has been gone since early Wednesday Morning and I haven't been home until late since he's been gone.

Went to dinner Wednesday to a friends house, out with d's to dinner Thursday, and out with friends last nite. going out with SIL tonite. Just need to do this stuff more when H is home.

Spent all afternoon yesterday getting FIL settled into nursing home after his release from the hospital. No one else would take the time off since H and #1 SIL were both out of town. WE didn't think he would be released that fast.

WE'll see what happens when H gats home because iv'e decided im'e going to keep most of htese activities going on a regular basis.
I am still going to make time for H but not as much as i have been. I have been staying at home with him way to much and i need the break.

Jak

Hope you find that happy medium between doing your activities and enjoying time with H. Also hope having FIL in nursing home will not be too stressful.

Went to the Nursing Home last night. H's dad is getting toward the end we feel and it is so heartbreaking.

H actually asked if it was bad to wish he passed.
Told him no that i tought it was very loving for him to wish he was no longer in pain and does not have any quality of life that he used to have. He was very active until early summer.

H seems somewhat distant but i try not to take it personally as i feel that it is because of his dad. we'll see in time.

I wish everyone a happy Thanksgiving. Everyone is in my prayers.

JAK

So sorry to hear that you are dealing with H's father's illness during the holiday season. Can't be easy! Good luck and stay strong! Happy Thanksgiving.

How is your FIL? How are you dealing with your H's reaction to his dad's illness?

Matilda,

Thanks for asking. FIL is not doing well. The doctor at the new nursing home said they think he had a slight stroke in the other home as his tongue is not working nad he can not be understood since he was hospitalized. I don't think he has long.

H is very quiet about it doesn't say much. We are trying to deal with his Mom too as she has been very confused and I have been trying to take care of matters there and talk to H about it. Don't know if I should just stay in the background but, everyone calls me (even MIL). Just wonder if it make things worse or better. H acts somewhat distant at times but i wonder if it is just all that is going on so i let it go.

JAK

Journaling,

oldest D and i were supposed to go shopping the day after Thankgiving but couldn't. D had to have eggs retrived for invitro fertalization. My whole weekend seemed so screwed up after that. We did go yesterday and tried to do the same things we do every year( we have a system). Did ok but it wasn't the same.
What creatures of habit we are.

Feel kind of out of sorts today but, don't quite know why. Think it's just the whole sitch with H and I and mostley his parents.

Im'e wondering if things may go down a dangerous path if it doesn't somehow get better, or at least not worse.

JAK

jak - wow, sorry you're going through so much with his parents, and especially sorry to hear there's not much movement in your sitch. Sometimes the "coasting" even feels really scary, I know.

Would he go to MC with you, do you think??

I read a bit on the Marriage Builders site the other day and I thought their Plan A thing was an interesting idea - might be worth a look if you want to try something different and see how it goes?

jak,

Sorry its taken me so long to check up on you, keep forgetting your in piecing..

Im so sorry to hear about your inl's thats got to put some pressure on your M.

Email when you can tem420@gmail.com..

Let me know what's up.

Thinking of you..

tal

Nik,

There isn't much movement in fact it's almost as if i feel we are going a bit backwards. I do think it is just because of his parents but still doesn't matter backwards is still backwards.

His Mom called and laft a msg. last night asking me to pick up bread today at the store. The thing is i was there for her yesterday afternoon, she then called my SIL and asked her to go get cigarettes for her at the store ;ast night then called to ask me to do that today WTF!!!!!

DOn't even know what to think or do. If i voice my frustration H says i'll do it and gets upset. He doesn't understand that it's not the doingf it for her that bothers me, ot's the making SIl and I go do this stuff 2 or 3 times a day and everyday of the week. We have told her she needs to make a list so that we can take her once a week but that went in one ear out the other. I know she has issues but WTF!!!!!

JAK