So she has no problem w/ your "going on strike?" She has no problems w/ your "romantic life?"
She says she loves me and enjoys ML but her actions suggest otherwise. We had sporadic problems before but her hysterectomy removed her uterus and her sex drive. She is probably relieved I am on strike trying to see if it will be permanent. She thinks I act like I'm in my twenties and a romantic sex life is for younger people.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
Will she go to a doctor to get hormone replacement? Testosterone levels drop after a hysterectomy (especially if they remove the ovaries, but sometimes even if they don't, because the blood supply to the ovaries can be compromised).
She needs to find a doctor who does bioidentical hormone replacement - your local compounding pharmacy can make a recommendation.
Will she go to a doctor to get hormone replacement? Testosterone levels drop after a hysterectomy (especially if they remove the ovaries, but sometimes even if they don't, because the blood supply to the ovaries can be compromised).
She needs to find a doctor who does bioidentical hormone replacement - your local compounding pharmacy can make a recommendation.
Ellie
No. She kept her ovaries so she is sure there is no problem. Her GYN is elderly and very old school and is a god in her eyes. I think he only concerns himself with whether the plumbing works not the intricacies of sexuality.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
She thinks I act like I'm in my twenties and a romantic sex life is for younger people. I have heard that one before. Why on earth would LD people actually BELIEVE this statement, and yet they do.
How old are you 2? I just got a hysterectomy as well and was also able to keep my ovaries and things like this scare me, although I'm not going to just *assume* I'm going to have any problems. With H gone, I haven't been able to "try it out" since my surgery.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
How old are you 2? I just got a hysterectomy as well and was also able to keep my ovaries and things like this scare me, although I'm not going to just *assume* I'm going to have any problems. With H gone, I haven't been able to "try it out" since my surgery.
She is 46 and I am 44.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
There's a difference between wanting sex and wanting to want sex. My sister has had difficulties because she had a hysterectomy and her ovaries were radiated to death. We were talking just the other day about how her drive feels different to her. She said she no longer, for instance, wakes up in the middle of the night feeling horny but her fantasy-generated drive is still intact. She insisted on getting estrogen replacement, added a bunch of weight training to her usual running routine (muscle increases testosterone in women) and she is applying bio-identical testosterone cream to her vaginal area. Her BF she lives with is on the LD side and it is too sad for her to deal with that given her current situation which is she has to have sex or use a dildo 3x a week to keep her vagina healthy and the adjustments she has to make regarding her drive so they have come to an understanding and she currently has a crush on her new band leader which is cheering her up.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
No, I told her. I said I thought that we would get along better. She wouldn't have the pressure and I wouldn't have the expectations. I told her pretty much what I said here regarding the "going first", etc. I said we don't really argue about anything else so I'm taking it off the table.
So what you've basically told her is "yes, I agree, the whole sex issue is poisoning our family life and I'm just going to back off so we can all be happy". To which the average LD person would respond by thinking "halleluhja, he's finally seen the light! I was right all along ... things would be soooo much better without all the pressure! And if he's able to back off that easily it must not have been important after all!"
What you didn't say is "I'm going to back off because I'm really tired of being the only one doing all the work on our relationship. In order to back off sexually I will have to emotionally detach from you, which may well become permanent."
To all who have posted regarding themselves or wives getting a hysterectomy, I have a question.
My LD wife has a large fibroid (comparable to being five months pregnant) and her OB told her yesterday that she would probably have to have it removed surgically. Her OB thinks it will probably be a partial (pull the uterus, leave the ovaries) but due to her age (38) we will be getting a second opinion.
What did you (or the wife) need to get them? Was this the reason for anyone else? Do you attribute the drop in sex drive to the operation or was it an excuse?
Sorry to put this in your thread Baltoman. I am new here and not sure how else to ask.
Me; 42, W; 43 M; 16 yrs S12, D9
3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure" 5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"
