Here's what I'm wondering about myself. Why did I have a generally positive reaction to the fact that GP brought up the topic of prenuptial agreements yesterday and a semi-negative reaction to the fact that he once again told me that I should dress more warmly?
Anyways, I know what it is that I like/respect about GP. We had some really intense sex yesterday and afterwards he said something like "Man, that really took something out of me." so I responded by giving him a sweet kiss and saying "There. I gave you some back." and he said "No. That was for you, not me.". So, I like/respect him because he is very, very smart/intuitive.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Here's what I'm wondering about myself. Why did I have a generally positive reaction to the fact that GP brought up the topic of prenuptial agreements yesterday and a semi-negative reaction to the fact that he once again told me that I should dress more warmly?
The first showed that he's thinking about a future with you. The second was him acting like a parent.
I'm personally not too big on prenups but I do agree that they can make sense and that probably everyone should have one, especially for second marriages where no further kids are planned and everyone brings in their own assets.
The first showed that he's thinking about a future with you. The second was him acting like a parent.
I'm personally not too big on prenups but I do agree that they can make sense and that probably everyone should have one, especially for second marriages where no further kids are planned and everyone brings in their own assets.
Actually, I think I had a positive reaction to GP bringing up the topic of prenups (he brought it up in a general way not in direct reference to our relationship) because I think a prenup would solve a lot of problems for my monkey if I ever do get married again. If it was clearly spelled out all the different ways in which I don't want to take a guy's $$$ then I would feel free to do just exactly what I like with my own little fistful of pennies. Maybe I won't get married again and I'll just move into an adult vegetarian co-operative house when my daughter goes to college.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Don't be put off by the word "retirement" in the name. Check it out.
You are joking, right? Actually, I am semi-moving into a new little community of sorts this weekend. My sister and I are moving our business into some uber-cheap space we got in a den of eccentric middle-aged male nerds. Unfortunately, the only bathroom is in the area inhabited by a guy who my sister described as a perverted troll.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Okay, what in particular did you think would interest me? I'm being serious. There are a lot of links on the site. Actually, your suggestion does bring me back to the "homeless" issue which I will get around to discussing. Part of my problem is that I feel like I am stuck in a chasm between two demographics so I don't know where to "live". Half of my situation makes me feel like I am 22 and half of my situation makes me feel like I am 62.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
what in particular did you think would interest me
Maybe I'm just more interested in a broad range of topics than you are. I've always been interested in the idea of an intentional community of some kind,i.e., people who live in proximity and share similar values, but aren't "forced" into any social interaction. Maybe because I'm an only child and didn't have any family around me ever, I'm interested in the way a community can shape itself into a family.
I've read just about everything ever written on Findhorn. When I formes my group of lady friends back in 1993, we jokingly said that as we got older, we (the single ones, that is) could build a couple of houses on my property and live together, but with lots of space. There was talk of making sure we always had a couple of cabana boys on the staff.
Friends are my family... when I got married, friends threw the bachelorette party. When we got married, the only blood relative of either of us who was present was my husband's second cousin. (He was an only child, too.) when my husband died, friends handled the shiva.
I'm blessed with a lot of friends, but that didn't happen by itself. I've cultivated friendships and I maintain them with emails and phone calls and lunches. It would be nice if we lived nearer each other.
Demographics- shmemographics! Ideally a community of friends wouldn't be limited by demographics. Such a community would be made up of singles and marrieds of all ages, gays, people with little kids, people with grown children-- grandparents, the whole kit and kaboodle. THAT'S the best kind of community.
So the subject of intentional community doesn't interest you at all?
