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Good morning-

We're doing okay this morning. D3 had a great night. She woke up a few times, but nothing major. Looks like she'll be able to go to school today.

H was good last night. I called him last night on his way home and asked him if he was going to eat dinner with me. I told him that I was putting some things on. He told me that sounded good, but he'd likely eat after he worked out. I made dinner and D3 & I ate before he got home. He got home around 8:00. D3 and I were sitting on the floor practicing her letters/numbers. She asked H to come and sit with us. He did. He sat with us for a long time and was really good. When he left to go workout, he shut a light off. He said....Oh, is that okay, is it too dark in here for you guys now? Just being really nice. H got home from working out and came right to bed. H initiated things early this morning. When I left for work, he and D3 were still asleep.

It's strange how we start to wonder what's going on when they become nicer.

Pretty quiet. I'm so tired though. H had a bad cold, now D3 has one. I feel like I'm catching something too.

Rob- I'm sorry about the homework. I'll get started on it soon!!

Have a great day.

-Sue

Hi Sue. I don't have much in me today but wanted to say hi. Glad D3 is feeling better.

PS: Watched Rules Of Engagement last night. I think its officially one of my favorite sitcoms. I thought of you because I know you like it too.

Sue,

Im glad all is quiet for you. It amazing.. its like they have split personalties..

Hope you have a good day!

tal

Hi TAL-

Oh, thank you so much for stopping by. That's so nice.

H & D3 called about 20 minutes before leaving for school. D3 sounded so needy. She said....Mommy, can you pick me up early today? Then I heard H said....Tell mommy 4:00 pm. So, looks like I'll be leaving work early today to pick her up. I just hope daycare doesn't call between now and then to tell me she's got a fever. I got on the phone with H again and he was good. Seems like since I asked him why he was so angry with me, he's been better. Who knows? I know I can't try to figure him out. Sad, but because H had told me 2-3 times that he could change his schedule today and then told me that he was keeping D3 at home this morning, I started to question his motives (questioning in my mind, of course, not to him). Maybe he's just stepping up to be the good dad I know he can be, but the way he pushed it, it seemed odd. But hey, I can't change that can I? I hope we can all get well soon and I can start up again with my GAL & 180's. I just feel drained.

SueS

SueS,

Buy a big chocolate mocca coffee thing and just chill for 5 minutes. I know that this 180s thing is so draining, but it will be worth it in the end.

You'll never get anywhere trying to make sense of an MLCer's moods, whether its the good stuff or the bad. Let go of that and focus on what you can control - your own moods!
That's no fun - very hard to work on the PMA when you're down with a cold. Try to find the bright side - give yourself permission to be a little selfish while you're sick - pamper yourself with hot tea and warm blankets and funny movies!
Don't let it build up to be a "Big Deal." Just go for small, baby step-sized things each day. Sometimes I think you get overwhelmed trying to fix your whole life at once - you're only human, give yourself a break and rejoice in the little victories. Over time, those will build up into something really amazing!

One other thought occurred to me as I was catching up with your thread: Several times you've gotten onto your computer at home and without meaning to snoop, stumbled across stuff like YouTube videos that have set you back. Why don't you set up your own account on the computer instead of logging in with the same account as H? That way you won't be sharing the same browser "history" and such. "More of what works, less of what doesn't" - OK?

Pamar and Rob are very smart. Their silly wives!!!

Sue, good morning. I was thinking about you last night. Rob is RIGHT ON about trying not to analyze H's every mood, every statement. Mark once told me "its her mess" when talking about his W, and its true, so true. Once you can pull yourself away from the everyday stuff, and know in your heart, that you are doing nothing to cause the moods, and you can do nothing to fix them right now, you'll be better off.

When he brushes you off, or snips at you, just brush it off. Don't walk away in a huff, just walk away and move on.

HUGS! Hope you are feeling better today.

Good morning-

I know I need to stop analyzing H's moods and actions. I was 2nd guessing his wanting to stay home with D3 yesterday, but turns out, he got home early and stayed home all night. He helped me a little with getting D3 to bed. He'd called us from work last night to see how D3's day was. He asked how she was. I told him she seemed to be fine, but I was getting sick. No comment from him.

Not much else going on. Just very busy at work. Still not feeling well today. Maybe a touch of the flu or something like that, as I haven't really been able to eat since Monday.

Well, I guess my only goal today is to take it easy and not get too stressed. I'm already tired and feeling achy. With so much going on at work, I need to just do what I can and the rest will have to wait.

Have a great day!

Sues

Sue,
Take care of yourself. Have a good day.

sues,

Have a good day and don't let his moods get to you...

:))

tal