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Only those of us who love how you post BF...... I to enjoyed this article that Amy posted, it was very informative. Glad you are doing well.....

Ian

I know, I-roc.....
Yeah, a lot of it resonated. Glad you are doing OK also sFa

well, I am doing ok except for this whole thing about Lissie saying I am having my own MLC....hmmmmmm

Interesting article. Hard to relate as i watch my H destroy our marriage a piece at a time.

Amy, I read your thread. Sorry things are so hard for you.

I wish sometimes there was more encouragement for people to keep their marriages or at least try. This seems to be the only place where saving a marriage is not thought of as nuts. I have one friend who supports my efforts. She was a WAS more than once. She is only now seeing her part in her relationships. She also knows the OW my H is with. A bit of an insight for me.

kind of saw that.... didn't know where you were and now i see you are in surviving. ah well... 2007 was kind of my MLC year. Made it through with only 1 scar. Have fun picking out bras and getting "girls stuff", kind of sounds like it's gonna be all you.

damn 26 years short1... are you going to be with friends/family over the holidays?

I am with my son (18). Mostly he is angry and I am depressed. My parents are gone. My siblings estranged over the years...alcohol.

I used to be very close to my H's family, but now they don't talk to me, well his sister will if I call. Most of "our" friends are now his friends and don't seem to mind that I am gone. Ahhh all those dinners and parties mean nothing in the end as he is the meal ticket. (Even though I built the business with him.) Sensing a little anger here. But thanks so much for asking...and you?

hey, it's OK to be pissed off. Trust me on that. Holding it in is no good, trust me on that. Vent here. When you are pissed, be pissed.

This year I am taking my boys to a waterpark on Christmas. They are with XW for Christmas Eve and I get them Christmas day. I booked the room for both days and will drive down there on Eve and set up a little ghetto tree and put gifts under it and probably drive back right away and chill with my mom. Then drive back with the boys on Christmas day.

I am not going to go into a lot of detail because I feel at this point anything I type about what is going on will be laced with anger. That would not be fair to XW and it would not be fair to y'all as you would get a skewed view of what is going on. I am at the point where I am OK and functioning, so I will say this. I had a 2 hour conversation with XW about S8 on Tuesday. It was about behavior issues. After the converstion, I felt more emotion and sorrow than I ever have in my life. I sobbed for 3 hours straigt, it was the first time I cried in almost 2 years. All I am asking is for each and every person that reads this post to please pray to God for my son. Thank you.

I will