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Good for you LWB,

It needed to be said. His stance is a lot weaker than I expected. Looks like the decision by Thanksgiving thing isn't happening though.

lwb.. I cringe everytime someone has a R talk like that with their spouse but it sounds like you needed to set some boundaries. Now is the time to stick to what you discussed with him. Don't let him call your bluff. You're going to have to remain really strong at this point, if you start acting differently than what you said during your conversation, you will lose credibility.

Keep it up! We're all cheering you on!

Wow, let me hug you, lady of steel,

(((((lwb)))))

That had to be rough, but you are just amazing how you hold up and how well you manage such a tough talk. I'd collapse like a gelatinous mess after facing such stress. Do you realize how strong you really are?

Oh, and the elephant-in-the-middle-of-the-room? Yes, that's one of those things I too need to deal with, real soon now. DB'ing aside, the cake-eating and blame shifting cannot be tolerated, not for long, before the respect becomes impossible to recapture. I just hope that I handle it half as well as you have.

lwb.... you are a legend...

You guys are very kind and supportive. I don't feel like a legend, but I do feel a bit better by H hearing me a bit.

lwb,

Good for you! It needed to happen, and I'm glad that you feel better about it.

((hugs))

tal

Hi LWB,

Happy day to you.

Husband

Hi lwb-

Wow, what a conversation. Did your H say anything during it about his feelings for OW? I know you feel that you know what they are, but I was just wondering. It didn't seem like he said anything about her, but said that he missed you and wanted you back. Tough.

Everyone is right. You are strong. I know this is tough as hell. I wish we could all be there to give you a hug.

If I don't get back on your thread, have a good Thanksgiving. It's a tough time of year for us all, but let's be thankful for waking up each day, for the beautiful children we have & for the incredible support from the people on this board.

Take care-

SueS

Hello strong lady,

All I can say is good for you to let your feelings out. It's draining but you can feel good about it too.

HUGS!

Sue, H refuses to talk about OW anymore. He won't answer questions so I don't ask anymore. I wonder why he does this (maybe thinking I'll use it against him somehow?), but he used to talk about her a bit when I asked. No more. Won't admit to anything, won't deny anything, just says "I am not answering that". Whatever. Goober. I did ask him yesterday just why we only discuss MY shortcomings and never seem to have time to talk about what he has done...no answer...

Saw OW at storytime this morning. She gushed over my kids. PUKE. I am all for leaving the kids out of it...but...Look, hussy, say HI to my kids only IF they say HI to you, got it? Her mom was with her, and I had planned on quietly telling her not to call the house, but decided against it. Maybe I should have put a note on her car? Oh and she didn't have her wedding rings on....