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good luck, donna. let us know how it goes. stay strong!

am headed to the gym as soon as h gets here. will do some cardio, but may have a go at the punching bag they have there.

I talked to my therapist and she was really helpful. I'll get thru this, but it just sucks so much.

How was the gym?? Did you burn off anger at H?? Wait, we don't have enough time in the day. LOL Hope you sleep well tonight, you deserve it.

the gym was good, I came home in a good frame of mind. he reiterated (no, I didn't bring it up) that it was his friend K who bought the earrings and he hoped I understood that. I just said I hoped he understood how hard that was for me to hear from D3, true or not. he said he did. then he told me he put the screens in for me. I got in the house and not only had he put the screens in, but he had cleaned up the whole kitchen...yowza, even wiped down the sink. wtf is up with that?

I've been trying to have a good night's sleep, but S5 keeps waking me up for some reason. I fell asleep around 10 and he's woken me up 3x, and its only around 12:30 now. ugh. blech. please god, tell me there is more sleep for me tonight.

(((((morgan)))))

I'm sorry you had to live that today. Do let it out. That's worked for me. As long as you move on to better things afterwards, I think it's helpful and healthy. Good for you for going to the gym. Try to ignore the alien and his droppings. Maybe start being a little more unpredictable yourself, with your GALing. It feels so good when we GAL in a way that helps us not care so much about what the WAS is doing.

Peace and love, f21

thanks, f21. I agree, I think it is helpful/healthy to get it out, but its also really against my nature, so hard at the same time.

I hate thinking about what he is doing, so try not to, but wow, when things like the earrings hit me, it just is so freaking hard. but I'll get thru it...slowly but surely. somehow, someway, I'll do it.

beautiful day here...supposed to even be a bit on the warmish side. gasp. will likely have the kids out all day today, have some friends coming over so will be good for all involved.

need to buy a new journal, think I'll do that while s5 is in school.

here's a wwyd. h bought d3 a jumper back in september. he was at an irish fest with ow (gag) so I'm sure she helped pick it out. that jumper has sat in her closet ever since...I just can't put it on her. do you all think I should just suck it up and put it on her? or should I just pack it in the suitcase when h has them and he can put it on her himself if he wants to? am I being petty by not putting it on her?

h has never told me she helped pick it out, but she was with him (I've seen the pics) for at least part of the festival, so I have zero doubt in my mind she was involved.

any thoughts?

I'd shrink it in the wash

Actually, that was my first instinct, but really it depends on whether or not you think your H is likely to take the children clothes shopping much or not. If he is then you are probably going to wonder that about everything he buys them and so perhaps need to think again.

When my parents split my sister and I kept some clothes at my dad's house for 'spare', in case we needed a change for any reason. Perhaps you could send a change, (including this garment), over to H's to be kept there as a spare set of clothes.

Saffie

....well, it is wool...hmmm....

Well....ugh....saffie has a good point. You know we tread lightly with our H's because they feel railroaded, unheard, etc....so maybe you should put it on her. Or pack it to go with H. Does *she* want to wear it? Maybe that will help you decide.....

Why must they make us be the bigger person? Its a PITA sometimes.

I think I'll go ahead and pack it. I've tried to leave clothes for his mom's house, even talked to him about leaving just an outfit or two and some jammies, which we did for a bit, then he just started sending everything home again. whatever.

breathing in, breathing out, breathing in, breathing out.

d3 just asked if she could be in a wedding someday. and it hit me...if they get married, she'll likely be flower girl.

must. stop. thinking. about. things. like. this.