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oops forgot to mention. H and I had a great afternoon yesterday. He said quite a few sweet things to me.

He even signed the papers at the lawyers giving me permission to sell the condo . I asked him that day and when I thanked him he said he trusted me.

he also helped me sell my car at a dealer. i gave him a small christmas gift and he seemed to like the gift/thought.

so here I am on the ride. And yes, I can get off anytime.

brava

Thanks for that! And thanks for reading along. It makes it easier.

BTW, I love those cages in Muenster. Very creepy at night with the lights on inside them! Let's meet there on day--what do you say?

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I do hope you mean on the ground , under them... and not in them!!!!! Not quite feeling that crazy yet!


(actually I agree: very cool and creepy , those cages.)

brava

brava, I gotta admit that when you take the pressure off you really take it off! leaving the country for a year isn't just a big step it is a LEAP! Have you talked with H about any plans to stay in contact?

You are so strong and in control of your life, a shining example for those of us still struggling.
2008 will be great for you!

WCW-
We will stay in touch by Skype (calls over the computer) and emails. He also says he will def. visit.

We will see....

brava

brava!!! yes, you are!
You have control of your life, doing what you want, and leaving the door open for your H.
That's what it's all about.
All the best wishes for your 'goodbye' dinner tonight with your H.
Travel safe and keep in touch!

wait a minute...

I just got the pun there in your change of title.

well, the ring is on and I am on and IN JAPAN!!

So crazy, I am in a hotel for a week as I get settled in to the apartment, get my shipment etc. I have so not processed that I am here for at least a year. Wonder when that will hit.

I am in a good place though.

My hotel room is tiny but fine. I am so excited that it has internet: which I think is free but not sure as the internet instructions are in japanese.

I met one of my neighbors and fellow teachers yesterday. She is so sweet. Today i am going to lunch at the home of one of the managers. That should be fun.

All went well the last night with H. He was not emotional or anything but I figured. He put the wall up to stay neutral. I bought him a webcam- so lets see if he contacts me. (I actually replied already to another forward he sent me and 10 other people (mostly women). Maybe our friendship can grow with the added distance.
\That last night I ended up writing him a note witht eh things I wanted to say and stuck it in the bag with the webcam. He did not tell me he found the note but I am sure he did. It was in an envelope with his name and if not he will see it when he tries to install the webcam
The note was very short . i wrote that:
though we dont know what the future holds for us , right now I know that I want to hold a place in my heart and life for him.
no matter what, I am there for him to talk and to listen.

I wished him good luck In a funny italian way) for the restaurant and that was it .

short and sweet. but it said what I wanted to without me being needy. (or so I think).

THanks WCW for all the great advice.... hmmm, you are wise with this R stuff.

sayonara!

brava

I didn't expect to see anything from you for a while, what a pleasant surprise.

It's nice that your H took the time to spend that evening with you. He could have took the easy way out and made himself scarce. Remember he was probably pretty steeled and expecting some big hoorah similar to the note you left him last time you were off on a long trip.

I have a short trip coming up soon and I have yet to tell H I will be gone, and I doubt he will give me the time of day no more than the time to be with me before I go.

If I was so good with advice wouldn't I be in a better place in my own sitch? Oh well, I see that all the time with other people. Book smart but can't make it work in real life. Guess that's my cover for now. Get it? book, cover. Funny ain't I?

I have a webcam on my new laptop, but I'm too chicken to use it. Besides, it scares me to see the picture when it pops on!

I hope you settle in and begin to familiarize and enjoy your time. Keep in touch!

Yay Brava!!!

Is your employer helping you find a place to live, or do you have to do that?

WCW, yup , my hotel has internet, so this week I will be online and then once I move I will be n the internet abyss for a few weeks at the most, I hope.


... so, have you been putting off telling him? sounds almost like the more you wait the more likely it will be that H feel dissed and will NOT give you the time of day.

brava