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Thanks Sarah and LWB,

Building trust is very hard and as Sara said we need to know how to trust each other again. It's funny for me though he can even think I am not trustworthy.

LWB, I've just couldn't help but smile what what you said about the walkie talkie. I just hate cell phones right now too.

Yes, a bump to figure out. Time is treacherous, it make us older (I do not know about wiser) but can heal too.

Thanks again for your insightful words.


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Yes, H believes he can't trust me at the moment, so I can imagine I would be standing in your shoes. I feel bad for you, don't want you to feel hurt.

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It's amazing how they committed adultery, but they are angry with us...




Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.
-- Bernice Johnson Reagon


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Yoyo,

How many times do we have to remind you? It's our fault they committed adultery. They are just the innocent pawns of our evil doings. Try repeating it until you have it memorized.

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Yeah, that's the one I have trouble with. "I didn't want this to happen. I wasn't looking for anything. If you did something to keep me here it never would have happened."

In a sense, it's true - but the A is never excusable. As I've told my W (who is not the greatest communicator in the world), I can only work with what I am given. If I'm told things are great and that I must projecting if I'm asking about the state of things, why would I think that we're in crisis mode?


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It's like H has a double personality. He separates the identity that had that affair from the one I am married to and from some crazy logic in his mind he thinks that the last one is intact so this personality is entitled to get mad.

I was watching the other day this program - "Tight Skirt"- which in my language if a person is in a tight skirt means she is in a awkward moment - where 4 women - one journalist, one philosopher, one ex-model, one actress and one sport journalist discuss several subjects.

This program was about love. So this guy, a famous talk show host here asks them a question. He was trying to understand why today, when divorce laws and social standards are much more flexible and it's not a scandal to be separated anymore, people continue to betray their spouses. Immediately it came to my mind: Cake Eaters!

They also talked about this global statistics, 9 out of 10 divorces are initiated by women. Not generalizing but it shows to some extent that despite we are the ones that seem desperate for safety, they are much more vulnerable to changes.


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9 out of 10??? Wow!!! I would never think that.

Cake eaters. Hmph.

Hope you are having a good day.

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I want some cake

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Husband,

LOL.
By now we all deserve a 1000 tiers chocolate fudge cake, in my case with a thick passion fruit syrup. :)! And I am a hungry girl and want to share it with only one person, so there's more for me. ;\)

LWB,

Today I am doing fine. Hope you are good too. Took off the day to care about house maintenance. Need to do some "Feng Shui"(!!) to attract good vibes.


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Oh Boy,

The Breaking news: can you believe my husband is thinking that I am planning some sort of revenge?

He has just made that type of joke through MSN that has a bottom of sincerity about how he is not concerned about me snooping anymore. He is concerned about my GAL and getting back at him.

I said to him not to have me started. (With a joking smile posting icon of course but I just wanted to smack his head)


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