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and btw, he hasn't contributed financially to our family since September.

I'm starting to feel like I should be posting under Mark's I don't care anymore. I dont feel like i do. I feel like a total fool after last week. It was such a wonderful week and then he does all this.

Your not a fool. He's the fool. It may be wrong, but I would have reacted the same way. Its hard.

tal

Luv,

I agree that you should let him know you were not snooping.It's hard on our pride and on our logics they can dare not to trust us but you are entitled to defend yourself and this does not mean you won't be following DB's boundaries. Just let him know, don't give him the excuses he needs to manipulate you.

I believe you will make a big statement by showing him that he was not working hard as he said as he was not trusting you either and by not doing that and falling back in his old ways he broke all the action plan you were working on. I would also take back the money, it's time for the stick.

Take away his road blocks and the whys for not doing what he promised to you.

Saffie, also, he sent the emails to HER. He knew all about it. He just didn't realize that she sent them to me. HE put this into motion. He isn't trying to get rid of her at all. He had done it on Monday and then went back to her. I would understand if it had been her and she was playing games like she did on Monday but it wasn't her, it was him. that's why I am so upset.

I think once he sees what she is saying in those emails he may understand your actions better. You know he was worried about what she was going to try and do. You do not know how much of what he is saying to her he actually means and how much of it is damage limitation. I am sure my H might have promised the OW in our situation the world to try and keep her sweet and away from causing more harm to me - how do you not know that this is not what your H is doing.

the other thing is we all have reason to snoop after what has been done to us but you seem to be the queen of doing this and of getting hurt by it.

I don't want to see you hurt but you just keep on repeating the same mistakes. how are you going to break the cycle?

Saffie

I didn't understand that Luv, Sorry. I thought she was sending you emails telling you about things he was saying to her. I didn't realise they were ones that he had written. Could he be just testing you?

He is a real [censored]. Sorry for the 2x4

((((HUGS))))

Saffie

ok, I fowarded the emails to him. We will see what he has to say when he reads his own emails back to himself. I'm exhausted right now. I don't feel anything right now. I guess the betrayal and hurt are too deep now for me to feel much of anything any more.

I'm glad you forwarded the emails, if not it should give you some satisfaction. He will be the one with egg on his face!

from f-------- to h---- I miss you like a can't believe. btw, this account will probably close she is freaked about it. also, if she sees an email or im from you on aol it will be a mess. please contact me through f-----@ yahoo.com.


what a sucker I am.