Uggghhh. I so know this doubt. When I start fretting over H's unavailability and subsequent plausible explanations, I try to tell myself, "The truth will make itself known" and let go of it. There isn't much I can do either way, and if it's a problem, it will become more apparent.
The worries are natural. They are consequences of H's poor choices...too bad we're the ones who have to really experience them.
Ok, Kelly walks away w/ head hung low --- H called and he & one of his buddies that is leaving soon went out & pretty much got plastered. Now, the funny thing is I don't even worry about him going out & getting drunk & doing something stupid. Don't know why that is. Sooooo, I was wrong in worrying. Glad I just vented here & didn't actually say anything to him or email anything.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10