She is the one missing out on you and your life. Try and act "as if" and keep her quessing.
Im sorry that she acted that way, and I just can't stomach the fact that the kids are going over to the om house.. that is just not right. She obviously doesn't see what damage she is really doing to the kids, or she just doesn't care.
Let her be concerned that you are moving on... Maybe its the wake up call she needs.
((hugs))
Tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Yeah... but isn't it nice to at least be able to feel somewhat in control? I'm very thankful for that. I've quit taken Zoloft.. still leveling out, but pretty much done.
I'm glad that at least my part of life is becoming normal again... whatever that is.
So.. MIL just stopped by. I work from home most of the time, so she called and wanted to bring some lotion/soap over for oldest D. She has Atopic Dermatitis and has some bad flare ups from time to time. MIL is a natural nut and always forces her "remedies" on the family.
Anyway... so I asked how the "talk" with W went last night. Guess I know why she hasn't called. Evidently they tore into her. It will be interesting to see if she calls. She'll be wanting some support, so not sure how to handle that.
So interesting... I pick up D's from school and W had forgotten their weekend bag.
I got ahold of her and she was coming back from her L's. No big deal, just a few little things. She asked me to meet at her place to get the D's bag and stuff.
We get there and W looks good. You know.. I don't get butterflies when I'm around her anymore. I also don't have certain physical responses either. That's a good thing!!
Anyway.. we go up and it was decent. Getting stuff and she made a playful gesture to which I responded. Oldest D didn't like it and she started acting up. This is where we get into trouble.
W can't seem to grasp that the fact that she has never been a disciplinarian + the instability her environment creates = girls acting up.
She asked that I help her and we work on discipline etc. I kid you not, when the girls are over here, it takes a few hours of being "Marine" dad, but they typically react and are little angels the rest of the weekend.
I told her what I thought.. she doesn't like the answer, but I don't know what else to say.
Anyway.. we get past that. I have a Blackberry for work, and my boss sent me an email which I checked. She immediately asked if it was a girl and I said no.. she didn't believe me and I asked if she wanted to see. She did.. so I showed her. Then I said "The girls are farther down" she didn't like that, but I couldn't resist.. there really were texts from girls further down.
We are meeting tommorrow to ride the horses. Should be fun. On the way downstairs, she playfully smacked me in the chest. She gave me an odd look and then patted my chest.
Guess the working out is paying off!!
As we were downstairs, she asked about me coming over and I told her I had breakfast plans which she was welcome to join in. It's early, so that means she would have to leave OM. We'll see.
Anyway.. hope you all have a good night. I have my D's and I'm making dinner!!
Jarhead, that's not just interesting, that's awesome. Sounds like a great DB day.
Looking good bro.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
Been out of contact until now, sorry to hear about the current sitch, but sounds like you are dealing with it well.
Simple advice, focus on yourself and kids. Act as if you are having a great picnic and W can come (or not). Sounds like she still want cake (and your support), so the 'no can do's' are great.
Your doing great on the 'not reacting', makes them react every time you refuse to. Have a great weekend with the D's.
It all sounds really good! It sounds like you are detaching and she may be uncomfortable with that. Don't always share your text messages. It's okay to leave her wondering. Be a little mysterious sometimes.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
