Well, I bought the book. GEEEZE what a bummer. I noticed many things in there similar to my situation... even her shaving her pubic hair... GOD... it pisses me off, makes me sad, makes me think this is never going to work...all that.
I'm glad I started to read it... but damn, it was such an eye opener. I didn't see very much hope in there other than preparing yourself for separation, which usually ends in divorce. But it did make me understand what my W is going through, and although difficult, I understand it a bit more.
Are we on here hoping for the best? Are we here because we're afraid of losing that person?? I don't want my children to go through hell, because of my W and my problems.
We appear civil and okay in front of the kids... it's just a weird thing.
I get emails from her during the day, making plans. I'm just not convinced the affair is over. But that may be just me feeling the pain... but I'm just so f'n scared and nervous to make the next move... but I KNOW I need to keep my head up, smile on and look like I'm ready to take whatever comes... it's just the kids.... they don't deserve this... they just don't.
Again, many thanks and hoping everyone finds peace and comfort sometime soon.
oh_guy... I remember that distinct scenario as well... I actually remember walking into the bathroom while she was doing that. Scared the crap out of her.
It's weird... you go back looking at things that made you think at the time "Well.. they've never done that before" or "Hey.. I thought you were just going to hang out with friends.. why..."
Yeah.. those are big flashing train crossing signs.
No doubt.. I remember being over at W's Apt in the early days and seeing "Victoria Secret" on her to do list. I left it alone, but then I found the little bag in the back of her Jeep. Little of nothing.
How bout this one.. threw out almost all of the lingerie she ever got from me save a few pieces. No biggie, she didn't wear it much anyway.. except when I was over recently and saw one of the items in the dirty clothes basket.
