I know that many advise not have a sexual relationshp with a partner who is having an affair, but I believe that in MLC all bets are off!!
Virtually all of the people who post here are people of immense integrity, and we are struggling with a situation where there are no maps and compasses to guide us.
This is so very true. I couldn't agree more.
There is only one person who could ever make you happy, and that person is you. David Burns, Intimate Connections
H was never one to talk much during the act or even say my name. I was the talker..
Well..the last month I was still doing it w/ him..he became more talkative (he knew I use to complain about his silence)..saying my name..saying how HOT I am ..say STILL AM...
They are very weird!!! Part of it is that sex becomes overwhelmingly important to so many of them. It becomes the be all and end all of their life.
I am not saying that it is unimportant at all, but there has to be a balance here. I am friendly with a couple where the h has impotence issues relating to his health. They they love each other deeply and have talked frankly to me about it [individually] partly because when you are going through h*ll people see you as someone safe to talk to.
It has been tough for them, but they decided that it wasn't going to be a marriage wrecker - no way.
I feel very sad that our h's couldn't handle something much less serious than this with the same maturity . . .
I think is scarred Lissett for life LOL SORRY LIS ! Gads...I had NO IDEA he was going to up and blurt that out to her....SHEEEEESH! It might be easier to talk to strangers, but couldn't it have been someone he met at the gas station???
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Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
At times I have wondered what my H would do if I made a move....when he was having an EA with ow I did all the time and it always worked....NOW, I think I really would be afraid of him pushing me away or telling me it would be in'appropriate'....I think it would make me cry....
When we went on our family skitrip, I felt a few times that it may have worked if I had tried...but I was too scared ...
You have made me wonder whether I should have, even if just to keep the connection there ...
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
I feel very sad that our h's couldn't handle something much less serious than this with the same maturity . . .
It's like they have lead a surface life of maturity and responsibility, but when they weren't lead to the golden land, they went for the quick fix. Too much pressure, too much expectation, too little emotional development.
LOL SORRY LIS ! Gads...I had NO IDEA he was going to up and blurt that out to her....SHEEEEESH! It might be easier to talk to strangers, but couldn't it have been someone he met at the gas station???
