I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this. You do have to do what you need in order to survive. I want to tell you something. This:
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I don't want a divorce but he reminds me he's in a "realationship", he tells me he's not coming back. I told him you know it won't work out -- his reply "maybe not".
is verbatum what my H and I said to one another waaaaaay back during his replay 2 years ago. I would be sick when he would call it a "relationship". But, yes, that is what he said, too. It won't work, you're right of course, but they are on such a sick roll with this that they won't stop until they smash into the proverbial wall and everything blows up for them. My H also said he wasn't coming back; he said it very hurtful and more than once. True, we are still separated but he doesn't have that same nasty attitude now. I'm not trying to puff you up with false hope here but just know that your H will most likely regret this one day, even though RIGHT NOW he is telling you otherwise. I know that doesn't give you any answers in regards to your situation; I honestly don't have any. However, your L will help protect you and perhaps he/she can drag the steps out for a bit; buy some time for you. My best to you. I'm very sorry and I know how it hurts. Hope
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
