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Glad to hear about your daughter. Sorry to hear about the tension from earlier being there with him. I guess it says something small that he stayed home today.

Did he say anything to you at all yesterday about finding him there? Have you decided on the OW's husband thing?

See again I am thinking this OW would have so much to lose by losing her husband. I am sure deep down she has to realize this. Even your husband would lose a lot. He makes less then you, then would have to pay you child support. You could also divorce him on the grounds of adultery which would be a big shame to him. I know he would lose a lot more because your a great woman. It just seems like divorce or running to OW would be that glamorous of a life for him when reality of it all hits. If he is worried about you finding someone else it seems he is worried deep down about losing you. I think it was Faith that use this angle and it worked with her husband? Do you think this could possibly help at all in your circumstance at all? LIke saying well hubby it seems you still want to date even though we are married. While your figuring this out I think I am going to do the same. To maybe help ME figure out if this is what I want.

(((HUGS))) and that is where separating does help. I know its not usually a good answer, but my friend says it can help in certain instances. certainly takes the level of discomfort down several notches. not saying its a good solution in your case, but if it does come down to it, the silver lining is you have peace in your home again.

so sorry things are so tense right now, lwb. glad to hear about D3's glowing report. not that I expected anything less from a D of yours!

I can just imagine the tension.. although I think he probably felt more uncomfortable then you because of his oops she caught me..

Remember words of wisdom that you once told me... "as if"..



Tal

yeah, act "as if" you're gonna kick his Ftard a$$...shovel anyone?

Thanks Sue!!

morgan, yes, I know if H was gone more, I would feel at ease. But I worry in the long run it would drag us farther apart. But how much more apart can we get, even living under the same roof.

TAL, Thanks lady.

trying,

H already thinks I have or am planning on cheating on him. I don't know why its his concern since he has no feelings for me. I do want to go out this weekend, so maybe I'll make it more mysterious. Don't know.

And yes yes yes to everything you said about what the OW has to lose, and what H has to lose. They are totally caught up and can't see what this is doing. Its sick.

I'm cranky tonight. I'll try to be nice.

hey lwb. How are you doing, dear? Did you ever get the Love Must be Tough book?

Seeing as H and OW both have so much to lose, that approach may just work for you.

Take care, lwb. I am praying for you and your family.


((((((HUGS)))))

Neph, went to TWO bookstores today and they were out. Must be lots of trouble marriages in St. Louis.

Hey LWB,

amazon.com
You will have the book in about two days. Strange how our sitch aside from the OW seems to be turning into mine. Two people under the same roof growing apart. I don't know what is better, if they move out then it seems harder to communicate and mend things. But then again it is easier to Gal and think things out.
Damned if ya do and damned if ya don't. I have tried to take a break form dbing this week. IT HAS BEEN A LOOONG WEEK. Tomorrow W has a self esteem class. I hope this helps her. I am going to strike while the iron is hot and fresh in her mind. Sit with her and No R talk but find out how the class went and what I can do to help. I don't think this 1 day class will do much but ya never know.
Sorry about your H. ya need to re group and start again. Not sure about contacting the OW husband. If you do first ask yourself why you are doing it and what do you hope to accomplish. These questions have stopped me so many times form contacting my W OM. My usual answer is BECASE I AM PISSED. There is always a ripple affect in everything we do. If the OW husband is lost and his W tells him you are lying and just trying to get back at her and that she loves him and want to work on their marriage, who do you think he is going to believe? His heart still belongs to her
Take care LWB ya know where I am vent ta me any time,
I need to go write Saffie a mushy letter to wake up too

Husband.

Thanks husband.

Just ordered it, it'll be here Monday.

Hi LWB,
Nice to hear your DD got such a glowing report, she sounds like a smart cookie. Has your H brought up the library incident? I wish I could just shake all these crazy spouses on here!