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hey, lwb!

private caller...could just be a wrong number. I know, my mind would go to the same place, but remember the law firm ones on my caller id...turned out to be a wrong number. not sure if h thinks otherwise, I know I would, but the fact is you don't know. if there is a pattern that starts up again, well, yeah, more likely. but don't let one phone call worry you too much.

you are I are doing things the same thing I think...withdrawing instead of detaching. I plan to re-read DB/DR this week. that self-preservation mode is strong, though, isn't it?

take care, and enjoy pizza day! (ewww on those anchovies, though, andy)

lwb-

Good morning.

Hope you have a WONDERFUL time at pizza day today. Good for you for taking it for yourself.

I understand about the private calls too. It's so incredibly difficult not to let you mind wander about what it could be. I agree with morgan, could be a wrong number.

How are your C sessions going?

I was talking with a co-worker yesterday who just gave her 2-week notice. She said she was worried about quitting because so many people had told her not to. Her reason is because she wants to be with her family. She's been married for 1 1/2 years and has a 4-month old. She said that she's already feeling resentment toward her H about things and wants to handle things there before anything goes wrong. I told her.....sweetie, let me tell you how proud of you I am. Realizing that you have something you need to fix before it becomes a bigger problem is WONDERFUL. You are stronger than most and I applaud you.

Sorry for going off on that tangent.

Have a great day!!

SueS

andy, I totally know what you mean. Most strangers wouldn't treat me like my own husband has, so yes, the niceness is so hard to eek out.

morgan, I know, mind wandering = bad. I have never been wrong when I go with my gut, and my gut says they are talking again at the very least. Hope you are doing ok.

SueS, How are you today?



Your coworker is very smart. Unfortunately most of us don't realize things are bad because in reality they aren't that bad, and history is being rewritten. I hope the best for your friend.

lwb-

You're right about most of us thinking things are fine when WHAM, we get hit with a bomb. I have to admit, that there were a few times in the past that I said.....hey, things aren't great right now, but it's only temporary.....D3 is little, but when she gets a bit older things will even out....our schedules will get better....we'll spend more time together...etc. I wish I would have stopped myself right then and there.

I updated my thread.

SueS

OW was not at pizza day for the first time since school started. D5 told me H was eating lunch with her on Thursday. Coincidence? I think not. I could bet my paycheck that she will be there. Barf. Wonder if I should call OW's H and suggest him surprising his D for lunch that day......Not my mess though. I had fun today and it was a nice change with no one walking out side doors.....

Hey Lwb

At this point the A has to die a natural death. If he would have been willing to give it all up at the beginning, then that is a different story. He wasn't. It will die, it just takes patience. My H's took 11 months. Hopefully for you and your children it won't take that long. Don't try to stop it. It won't help.

Hang in there and be nice, even if it is the hardest thing you do. If you truly want to be back together, he has to see you as being nice. If you aren't, it only validates why he should leave.

Faith.

Hi Faith! Thank you so much for responding. You are so right, he has to want to come back. I promise to TRY and be patient. Look at your success story!!!

Journaling: For weeks now, I have been cell phone shopping. H knew I had to get a new cell phone before October ends (work related). I asked him twice if he wanted a new phone, a plan with me, etc, and he just blew me off. I got the feeling he wanted his OWN plan, separate bills, etc. I was going to order myself a new phone this week and not ask him again. I am walking out the door tonight and he goes (pointing to the computer monitor), "Hey, which phone do you like? I am going to order our new phones and plans tonight." WHAT? I am totally fine with that, but what planet is this man on?

All right LWB.

Take the baby step. Go out side and jump for joy (don't let him or the neighbors see)
H

lwb....

I am scratching my head about that one. On the one hand, he seems to be OK sharing minutes (and letting you see what he is doing). On the other hand, it just seems too... I don't know.. I guess the word is "obvious." Am I the only one here who is suspicious of his motives?

I'm not sure what angle you are looking at it.