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I hope today was a better day.

thanks all, yesterday was somewhat better. I didnt sleep really well last night. I am having somewhat of a struggle with the reality of all of this and what it means to my kids and my family unit.

I am good, but it tears me up to think of what all of this means to the two lives that W and I vowed to love and protect as we brought them into this world. That part just sucks......


Ian

Hi Ian,
Sorry to hear about your day and the fact that it hurt so much. Your last statment about how you and your W vowed to love and protect your kids as you brought them into this world struck me. That is exactly why you are doing what you are. You know you are doing what is best for your kids right now. That doesn't mean that it will always be like this.
You're doing a great job of taking care of your kids but remember to take care of you too!
thinking of you, carrie

((Ian))

When someone we love and trust decides that they no longer want to play by the rules and they decide that we no longer are a part of their lives, we have to get strong.

When kids are involved we have to be even stronger.

When things get ugly we need to get into survival mode.

That is what you are doing.

You are protecting your children, you are doing what is best for them.

Just look at the man you have become.

Yes, it hurts, none of this should ever have happened, but your kids will thank you for keeping them safe and for doing the right thing by them.

(((((((hugs)))))))

Um what did you tell me last night? When I was a being weepy?

Oh yeah, stop that stinkin thinkin.

dork.

I know it is hard to stop, that is why, it is ok to feel this sadness, feel it, and slowly everyday it will get less.

You will become stronger b/c of it, and your kids will have stability b/c of it, It is a win win, situation.

Love you my Jewmuffin.

BND, I completely agree, and I would never not have the courage to do this for my kids. But, it does hurt and that is just part of the sacrifice that we make for our children.

Lissie Bean, we talked about this earlier. I have to be ok with feeling bad sometimes and having painful times. I get that now and will not be so hard on myself because I hurt.

Oh well, feeling a bit better today. Good day at work, and it is cooling off quite a bit which I love. The high today was 55 and it was raining. I wore a short sleeve golf shirt and all the local yocals looked at me like I am crazy......

Ian

You?

No, I can't even imagine it, wait till they see you in your Halloween costume.

Hi Ian,

{{{{{Ian}}}}}

I'm so glad you are feeling better, but yes it is okay to feel icky sometimes. It's great to see you are allowing yourself that. That's the kind of love you deserve and I'm sure happy to see you giving it to yourself.

Your kids are so loved, and lucky. I can only imagine that it's very hard to see that at times. Continue doing as you are and your confidence and peace will come back again with a vengeance.

Thanks for showing us what a man looks like. You are an inspiration to so many. I'm sorry you are going through this, but this is the path that will take you where you're supposed to be.

Now, let's hear about this Halloween costume of yours.

Take good care of you!!!!

Love, f21

Hey J, thanks for the post. My halloween costume is an inflatable sumo wrestler that is so big I can't drive with it on. I also have a nerd face mask complete with coke bottle glasses and buck teeth.

My S10 has trunk or treat this Saturday and i plan on wearing it while handing out candy to all of the kids.



I don't know about this line... there are many many on here who do the same, day in and day out. But thank you for the compliment


Ian

Sweet!!!!! You should post a pic of that for us. The kids should love that. What is a trunk or treat?

I know what you're saying and it's true there are other men here (and elsewhere), it just doesn't go unappreciated is all. I, and I'm sure others, benefit greatly from being reminded what a good man looks like. What you did on Monday was another great example of what you're made of. You deserve to feel proud of yourself. You have faced some tough stuff, to say the least. Now, don't go expecting perfection from yourself anymore. Imperfect is quite attractive.