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I'll be watching our son while she goes out for the night until Sunday morning when she comes home so I have to stay at home :-(
Did your husband ever have a sleep over with 5 or 6 single younger women? I guess that's my main hang up and problem, is getting past the thought of what kind of krap will be going on if she's had too much to drink and being there with all those younger guys who's hormones are rushing. Just hope no one takes advantage of her or that she doesn't something she will regret later

GISH - make plans for you and your son to do something your wife will be either mad or sad that she missed. If she knows you are going to do something nice and asks you to do it on another day when she is there say no you are going to do it on Sat night. Then do something with your son,(cinema, bowling etc....). Make it a fun evening for your son and you MIGHT enjoy it as well.

Hopefully if your wife misses it and your son loves it and talks about it to your wife afterwards she will REGRET not being with you. If she does something with any one of those guys she will regret it and boys at work will they take the piss.They will gossip and make her feel bad - even if it is just a kiss. It would be the start of the beginning of the end for her at that workplace - which IMO she needs to realise is not a healthy place for her. Let her screw up royally at this work place - make a fool of herself - then she will hopefully learn her lesson, get a new job and behave better.

Saffie

Another thought GISH. I think you said in an earlier post that your W is a grandmother. Now she may be hot but I wouldn't have imagined that many younger men want to sleep with a grandmother. Couldn't you send her a boquet of flowers to work with a big sign on them saying "To the worlds best Grandma" - then everyone knows her status.

Saffie

I agree with Saffie that partying with all these guys is unbecoming in the workplace. Your wife could end up with a very unhappy situation at work, or even fired. But it is obvious that you can't reason with her. Hopefully they will all control themselves, as anything else is bad for everybody. And it does sound like she is using this to get back at OM.

Thanks everyone. This is NOT a work function. It is 4 guys from WORK but they are going out to some bars and then to one of the guys house. So her job can't do anything about it because it's not on work time or at the workplace. She left at 7:00PM so it is too late for my son and I to go anywhere. She looked and smelled so good when she left. I wanted to cry but held it together. I just will never understand what those 4 guys have that I don't have. I am worried that she will drink TOO MUCH and do something she wouldn't do if she was sober :-( She's not that kind of women but if those horny guys have too much to drink who knows. Plus she has NOT told anyone she is back home. They still think she is living on her own. And it felt like I got kicked in the gut when she told me today that she tells everyone she is NOT married. For christsakes we are only separated. In NC if you do anything with anyone while you are separated it is considered adultery and people can be sued for being with her but she does NOT wan to hear anything about that and she proudly says she can do what she wants. I'm just so depressed. I don't even know if she will be honest and tell me if anything happens tonight

GISH read the signs - she needs to get this out of her system,. Why do you think she told you this? It's like she wants to punish you. Don't let her know it's working. Please act 'as if' if you can. I know it's hard but that is the surest way to get her thinking.

Saffie

Saffie,
I don't why she is trying to punish me. All I ever did was love her

GISH for some reason she is not fulfilled at the moment and you are the person she relies on to love her whatever- I guess I would liken it to the actions of a naughty child. It's not about you especially but you are the easiest person to hurt.

Saffie

My wife came home Sunday morning after spending the night with the co-workers. They ended up just staying at the guys house without going out. They ordered pizza and drank beer at the house. She said she had 5 beers that night. I didn't question her about anything but I really don't know if anything happened. I know I am pathetic but all I thought about was the fact she immediately took a shower when she got in the door. She had slept in her clothes that night because she didn't bring any clothes or pajamas. And I know everyone will think that I have mental issues and I know that this is sick and I have issues but I checked her underwear after she put them in the laundry. I don't know why I am that jealous to scoop to something like that and I know it makes me look like a freak but I am still such a emotional wreck that I can't help myself sometimes. I am trying to curtail that. Of course doing that made me more suspicious because of it. But now today she seems normal again. We shall see for how long it lasts

Hey GGSH,

Been there done that. No wait I don't mean I was in your wife hamper.... I have done the same AT MY HOUSE. It does not makes you look like a freak. Unless maybe I'm a freak too. Well what the hell lets be freaks togeater and try to save our marriages. Heck I would wear my wifes if it would help.. HMMMMMMMM


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