This Sunday at church, the sermon topic was prayer, but more specifically, prayers being answered. The verse she was preaching on was Luke 18:1-10, the parable of the Persistant Widow. You can read it yourselves.
Anyway, the jist of it is to pray often. Although not all prayers are answered in the way we want them answered, we are assured that they will be answered.
The final point the Pastor made was, "Give up, no give it to God."
Food for thought.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
My wife still feels like we need a separation. She feels that there are parts of me that can't/won't change and that I don't want to address the marriage problems we had before the affair became an issue.
Wow, this is where we are exactly my friend. Only change the 'she' to 'he' and that's how my H feels about me. And I fear he's right. Or what changes I have are too little too late, and still missing a whole lot. FEMA funds too late and all (see my Colortini post on my blog to elaborate on that theory).
Separation is back on the table in Stepford. I've brought it up myself several times, never really wanting to go there, always wanting H to Refute It, Fight for Me, Love Me. Ya'll know. He has never agreed to it, or said he wanted one, or thought we might need to contemplate one, really. Until today. For mainly the reasons from your quote. And others, but I won't hijack.
I posted on my old thread in Piecing just now with a wee update, so feel free to pull up a chair and share some chips and salsa, whilst I may cringe occasionally as the knife twists in my gut.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
Thanks for the kind words and hugs. You are very sweet.
BI,
Ouch. Sorry to hear about the difficult situation. People can change. I think they can change when God wants them to in an atmosphere of grace. Otherwise it's hard.
This whole personal change thing has got me thinking.....
I agree with Saffie. I think that bringing the 2 emails to you was a very significant step from your wife. Your wife does not share your skill for empathy, and as Saffie points out she will continue to be caught up in her own emotional dramas for a while. Still, I can't help but think that moving your relationship out of "stuck" is a good thing.
With the OM our of the picture, it changes things up.
I'm tired of trying to save the marriage. I'm am, however, interested in taking a journey and finding my call to adventure. Maybe, IF, my wife wakes up from the fog of the affair, she'll like what she sees.
