What my friends think about my h is not printable!! They think I am compassionate and forgiving, even though they recognise that he is extremely mentally ill. As I posted the fact that my h couldn't even say 'Hello' to Tom, on the phone today, spoke volumes. This was one of his best friends!
Thanks, I am having a good day, getting ready for a fairly strenuous time towards teh end of the week, then non-stop guests from next weekend for about 10 days. Living in Central London makes me strangely attractive!
Angelica, Your h wants attention from you, be it good or bad. The spewing post card, the drive around London all says "attention". The more you remain quiet and do not react, the worse he'll be. At some point, he'll get the message and try something different. It's the dance of the distancer/pursuer. Right now, you are the distancer and he can't stand it.
Keep looking ahead and whatever he does, don't react.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
"spewing postcards " huh maybe theres a market for those. this really gonna date me....but some of you must remember the the "Chatty Cathy" dolls pull the string and they talk....."spewing susie " pull the string " ILYBINILWY" and so on......
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
New, I have one of those Chatty Cathy dolls from my childhood! I loved pulling that string and hearing her prattle! I wouldn't even put these guys in the same class w/that Mattel doll! There are more like pod people. Open the pod just a bit and out comes all of the spewing!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
"spewing postcards " huh maybe theres a market for those. this really gonna date me....but some of you must remember the the "Chatty Cathy" dolls pull the string and they talk....."spewing susie " pull the string " ILYBINILWY" and so on......
ROFLMAO!!!!! That is classic!
Venomous Vicki - "I've been unhappy for a very long time."
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
OH my--I used to have one of those Chatty Cathy dolls and she even had red hair.
Little did I know, that would come back to haunt me. OW's name is Kathy and she has red hair.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Thanks for the posts and support - When you deal with this alone, it seems so surreal. You lose sight of what is normal.
Yes, it does take a special kind of person to send you nasty things on postcards. He takes it all so seriously. To me it is more like a naughty little boy running in and sticking his tongue out, and running away again. All to get attention . . .
He wrote [apparently] a rather portentious email to his sons recently that their cousin was going out to a well known war zone on assignment, and 'they probably didn't know this'.
Son 2 did reply saying that it wasn't generally known, certainly shouldn't be publicly circulated, and that he had known about it for months! H doesn't seem to realise that their life is going on witout him, that they are closer to their cousin than he is [on his side] . . . It is like he occasionally wakes up and notices the outside world, then tells everyone else about it, in a 'look at me' moment.
