She never filed. IMHO I think that she was afraid to because that would have meant shutting the door forever. We argued and the subject of D did come up, but it never got to actual legal proceedings; we were never even legally separated. She even got a friend who is an atty. to give her free advice on what she should do. So much for that!
You know, the whole EA thing is one of the most difficult things to deal with, but you have to. And the best way to do it is to disengage. You really have to just not think about it because all it will do is drive you crazy and make you angry. Instead you have to focus on what you want, NOT what you do not want. If you always focus on what you do not want you will focus on negatives. You have to make what you want a positive desire and than focus on that.
As far as what happened to me, please just go to my thread regarding my sitch and read there. Far too much to reiterate here. As for what happened after that initial crap, I know that she has had actual EAs and that sucks, but the point is that we are now back together. PERIOD. It is now time to move forward and live together again by making it work. And the only way to do that is to work at it every day.
Being a man and having to deal with EAs is never an easy thing. Rising above that male ego and telling it to go to hell is the key. If you can do that, you win ever time. Read that again. Let it sink in and then DO IT. Then LIVE IT.
M:42 W:38 D:9 S:6 married: 15+ together: 12.5 Bomb dropped: 4/18/05 Back together: 9/30/07 In trouble again: NOW
