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Jak,
My W and I are both taking the week off next week. We're having hardwood floors refinished, so have to vacate the house. I may not be in front of a computer for a week, so don't worry if I don't post or don't respond to one of your posts.

I'll connect with you, Matilda, and others in the Piecing forum in about a week.

CL

Wish you well CL,

Have a good weekend and coming week.

JAK

Hello. Hope you're having a good weekend, Jak.

Matilda,

My weekend was ok.
How about you?

JAK

I need to work on my GAL! I spend too much time doing housework and overseeing homework. Work is busy, too. Poor me!

Matilda,

Im'e working on the GAL but one thing that i thought of that kind of makes me mad, Is the fact that all of our friends H brushed off when he was really deep into MLC and noew they don't ask us (or me) to do anything and when i ask they are busy. I have my own friends but they have kids and H's so they won't go do anything.
I have to do a lot by myself now, and im'e a social person so this bugs me. My own kids are busy with there friends and spouse and don't do things either.


My PMA is up for the most part though.
H went three hours away this morn to go hunting with a new friend (his boss from his side job). He's going to an NFL game with my son and some friends, and he's going to Illinois hunting the week before Thanksgiving. He's got a life qwhile I take care of everything at home.

Whats up with this picture.
Right now im'e trying to take care of his Mom and visit his Dad in the Home while he's working and hunting.

Think i'll go out after work tonite.

What does it take for them to feel the connection again?


JAK

Boy can I relate to this sentiment!!! When you figure it out, let me know!!!

This is something that I am struggling with a great deal right now. I am bustin' my heine' to be a great husband and trying to show affection on a repectful level, but I am not getting any signs in return. I am struggling with the whole doing things without expectation role!!!

THBA,

I do things without expectation. I think he just needs to get thru this before he can feel it.

Maybe he still feels something for EA/OW and thats why he is having a time reconnecting. Who knows and i can't worry about it. If the time comes and I can not wait any longer then he will have to decide what he wants or im'e gone. I guess it's pretty simple and i have waited a long time(2 Years). i guess it's just time to forget about the M for awhile and live for me. DO what i want for me.

JAK

Since it's been so long since you've put yourself first, do you have trouble deciding what YOU do want to do?

Yes Matilda I do

Well maybe not so much what i would like to do on my own but, to do things with other people. My friends are to busy with their spouses and children and my family except for 1 brother live far away from me so i don't have many to do anything with. I do things my self but that can get kind of boring as im'e a social person.
There are not any groups around here for anything. AND I DO MEAN ANYTHING. I go excersize but, you can only do so much of that then you have to go home.

I am going tonite out to dinner then a seminar on weight loss in Syracuse with some girls from work. Didn't mention it to H i'll leave a note telling him i went out with friends. I won't be home until he goes to bed. By then i imagine he'll be calling wondering where i am.


H came home from hunting last nite, has to work today and tommorrow,and has informed me that he will be going back down south to hunt this weekend again(his every other weekend off).
This means i'll be on my own again and i'll be transporting his Dad so he can spend the day at home. I know this is just for a while but, after this it will be back to going to a movie every other weekend and thinking that will take care of things. We are together at nite and we watch shows on tv together but, in my OP that is not really Quality time i fell that he thinks it is,(although it is better than nothing right now). This is all he likes to do and if I suggest going out for a drink he never wants to he doesn't like to he says. Our friends i think gave up on asking us to do anything as he always says no or is doing something else.

I love to dance and listen to bands particularly rock but not as much fun doing it yourself. But i just might this weekend.

It just seems that he still doesn't get my LL even though in the past he has been told so many times that this is an issue with me. It is what he wants to do himself or with other people then me. And he's the one in MLC.


And I wonder why he still doesn't feel a connection?


Maybe my emotions are getting the best of me again.

JAK