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Sandi2
I have not heard from some of my old friends and I was reading back over some old posts at the beginning of this thread. I sure hope I have not offended anyone.

You haven't offended me. I don't post much because I don't have many ideas to offer.

My own situation is sort of down right now.

Lou

Hey Sandi,

hang in there.
I think it took me about a month to get out of the "oh Lord I really need 'something' to help me through this", to "ok, this is horrible, but i can live through it".

(without actually taking ADs).

Not saying it will be the same for you. just giving you an outside sample to compare against.

Good to hear from you all again. I have gone over a year now without any AD so I know it is hard at times, but I can do it. It would be nice to have some help, but if it isn't going to happen, then I'll just have to do the best I can. Has anyone every had success with St. John's Worts? I never knew how much to take and could not tell any difference. When it first came out.....Oprah and some others thought it was great. Don't hear too much about it anymore.

Otherwise, things are about the same around here. How are all of you?

Do some research on St. John's Wort-- it's widely used in Europe for depression. If you google on "depression natural" you'll find lots of stuff. Or go to your local Whole Foods market or GNC store and talk to them about natural methods. I've had some luck with some stuff called "Natural Calm." It's a magnesium supplement. You mix it in hot water and drink it like tea (I usually add a package of Splenda, or you can add flavored coffee syrup.) Take it right before bed.

I took two workshops on Yoga for Depression by Amy Weintraub. She has some books out and a cd with breathing exercises. I think you'd find her books very informative. She also has a website.

Nothing has helped as much as Lexapro, but my problem wasn't so much depression as it was panic attacks.

Thanks, I will do that. I don't have panic attacks or neither am I the "worring" type. My depression is more like a sense of not being interested in anything anymore. I feel "burned out" about things I used to love to do.....like decorating for holidays and other special events....it was like a hobby almost. Now, I just dread it and can't seem to muster up the energy to do just what I have to do. As I have stated in other posts, I have always felt like I had a certain amount of depression my entire life that I couldn't seem to "shake" off.

ah. well, that's very different from the depression I had, so not much *I* can suggest, unfortunately.

It might help, if you tried to identify whether your "lack of energy" is due to your feelings, or your body directly.
It's tough, since lack of physical energy strongly influences mental energy, after all. but if, for example, you (or a helpful doctor) identified it as physical, then you might be able to do some kind of physical therapy, or possibly medication/suppliments, to help you with that.

Random update on ME.. I spend the night where my wife lives last night. [her parents' house]
!

Unfortunately, it was more of a "help me out" kind of thing, rather than a specifically enjoyment-oriented thing: the gas at my/our house was turned off, until today. But it was the first time I've ever been over there and gotten to help our children to sleep, and spend non-vacation evening time with her.
Separate beds this time, as opposed to vacation. Probably in part to do with her mother being there, but W didnt seem particularly comfortable with even a shoulder rub last night anyway.

That being said... I'm really really glad that I got the opportunity to be over there. I hope seeing that it "can be done", without armageddon happening, might make her feel more comfortable about doing it again some time.