Thanks for the info Morgan...the boo-ing sounds like fun! I might just have to do that with d6!
And thanks for the compliments on the name. *bow* It's a mixture of an old nickname. I like to put a piccie I have of a purple cow with it (can't paste it here) .
Morgan, I think you have a great point about Oprah doing a show on divorce busting! I cannot tell you how many people try to come to the bar after a divorce. They are not happier post divorce. Some are the WAS and others are the LBS and I am telling you both sides are worse off. Yet, so few people seem to have really tried to save their marriage with the appropriate tools.
One thing I hear is how many people say they tried everything. I find that really hard to believe. Whoever said not to stay together for the kids? Or that a sex starved marriage can't be saved? I think DR is such a great resource for any couple who is still together. Too bad we found it after the bombs.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
busy day yesterday...school for the kids, then off to their dentist, then off to a friend's house for a playdate. I was in and out all day, never got a chance to really get on the boards.
so far so good as far as H is concerned...he continues to respect my wishes about not talking, except about the kids. we are pleasant and that helps. I know it doesn't take away the crap, but at least it puts it on hold for a bit. less than a week until our anniversary, and I think I'll be okay. if he continues to respect my wishes here, it will be a huge help.
it also helps that the db meet is this weekend! I'm completely distracted by that. tonight am meeting up with a few db-ers, then tomorrow the meet in boston. hmmm...guess I should probably figure out what I'm going to wear, huh?
today I should go to the gym after dropping S5 off at school, but I think I'm going to just come home and play with the twins. seems like I'm just sort of giving myself the week off, I've barely worked out, but it feels good to take the break, and will start up as normal on monday. although plan to go tomorrow, so not completely off. just not as hard as I've been going.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
Morgan, You have inspired me to start doing ab work. My SIL just had a tummy tuck now that her twins are 7. I just don't think I will ever get my body back. I am almost the same size as I was in high school, but boy am I not the same if you know what I mean. Any advice on post baby tummy?
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
the ab work has helped...some. I have a long way to go, and don't think I'll ever have my 20 year old body back again. its funny, my girlfriend and I were talking about plastic surgery yesterday and we both said if we ever had the guts (and the money and the time to recover) a tummy tuck would be what we would go with.
other than working out/cardio/ab work I have no other suggestions. I'm trying to go this route. I still am heavier than I was in high school/college, that damned infidelity flu ended too soon. lol. actually, the other suggestion I have is to accept the body you have, complete with whatever war wounds that come with it...including a post baby tummy.
its ironic, my breasts, on the other hand, shrunk and are a full cup size smaller than they were pre-babies. (happened about a year after I stopped nursing the twins, I'd say). on the bright side, less to sag as I get older, right?
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M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
hi morgan, sounds like your busy day was fun too. And yes, pleasantries are very good, at least makes the crap more tolerable for the moment.
Tummy tuck. I would love to do it if: they could guarantee 100% survival from surgery, someone else paid for it, and I would be pampered like a queen til I recovered. So yep, NEVER gonna happen LOL
Hi Morgan. Haven't been on much, but I am glad to see you are doing so well. H seems to be coming to his senses a little too. I'm glad he is respecting your boundaries and at least showing that he cares how the kids are taking things, even if he does ask you to do the dirty work for him. It could be worse. He could have shrugged off S5's statement. I, for one, am sick of hearing how resilient kids are. Just give the WAS a big hug while you're at it.
Have fun with all the DBers! I'm jealous, for sure.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
