There we stand back to back with the wife circling us, throwing her tarot cards at us!!!!! We will prevail, and we will free Theo from this funk that he is in. Yay. We will win........
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Oh my.... my two smoking hot lionesses are defending me.
Well...looking at it from my wife's side -- even if we split in 12 mos, aren't we supposed to treat each other well until then?
And she may have thought I wasn't really doing anything, which is not a good lesson for the kids.
And when my wife was deeply in love with OM, she did throw me amazing brithday parties. Strange eh?
I'm telling you she used to be a gem.
But then, as my former pastor told me: she can't expect me to act "married" if she says she wants out. This is what it's like to not be married -- even your friends don't throw you a big party.
The kids and I gave her gifts this morning.
Oh...I got my first offer this morning for a job. I'm still looking, but it takes the pressure off and helps me interview better.
And when my wife was deeply in love with OM, she did throw me amazing brithday parties. Strange eh?
You think? Guilt is a strong emotion and so is trying to put a front on things. Surely NOT throwing you the parties would have been worse?
I totally agree that you should treat each other well but that cuts both ways Theo. You can't tell someone you don't want to be around them and then expect them to big you up and put themselves out for you.
I believe she USED to be a gem. But we don't know her, we don't know her side of things. We know your side and we hurt for you NOT her.
I don't agree with your pastor - friends can throw you a big party - I just don't know if your wife's new friends are too wrapped up in themselves to throw someone else a party.
How are the kids taking it? did they find her not having a party unusual. I am afraid that's more what I would worry about as opposed to your wife's feelings.
Congratulations on the job offer - it's always easier to find another job once you have one. Is this one fixed contract or permanent? Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Saffie is right. She should be treating you well also. She may have used to be a gem, but now she is acting like a lump of coal. She needs to step up to the plate and be the woman she used to be.
I know I'm one to talk, I know my husband needs to step also, but they tend to do what they want to do. That's the sad thing about it. It seems we give and give.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Congratulations on the job offer. I'm sure you will pacify your wife. I hope that at the same time you can make her see that she needs to do nice things for you too. Not just on your birthday.
