Theo, There has never been any doubt that you are a decent guy.
The fact that she was hurt by the fact that you didn't pay attention to her birthday shows that she is suprised that perhaps you are not as wrapped up in her as she thought AND that what you do does matter to her. Isn't that good? I know it's not put the flags out and hold a parade good but it shows that feelings other than dislike still exist.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
She suggested that true love does things for people even if they aren't responding, and if I loved her I'd have planned a party anyway.
How much can a person take Theo? How are you meant to know that she really doesn't want you to work on it any more? She is inconsistent.If you had thrown a party you would have probably been told that you shouldn't have bothered and why waste the money when you are not working.
I have read and read and read this post. I can't make head nor tail of it. Is she upset because she thinks you don't love her or is she upset because you didn't throw a big party and so her friends will think there is something wrong?
I know I am too soft sometimes but this has really upset me. It's like you are lying on the ground curled up in a ball hurting and she keeps on kicking you. Why can't she have more compassion? Why can't she see what she's doing?
I can only think that something inside her is so twisted or hurts so bad that she has no comprehension of the pain she is causing you. She sounds mentally ill, a megalomaniac.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Theo, I'm just as confused by her behavior as everyone else. I believe there is a mental illness involved with adultery. Otherwise how could a seemingly good person destroy the ones they love? It not only touches their LBS it, effects the children and other family members. A person in their right mind would know that this is not the thing to do. They would realize the destruction that they would be doing and choose not to do it. They would not sacrifice their family for their own desires.
Theo, you are a wonderful man in so many ways. Your wife is just sick right now and doesn't see it.
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
What can we do Yoyo? I have cried so many tears over what Theo's wife is doing to him and his family. How can she be so blind? She is obviously Ill or something. How can someone as wonderful as the woman Theo fell in love with turn into this? It beggars belief. If it hurts us to see the harm caused to Theo what is it doing to him?
How can someone cause all this pain and shame and then want a birthday party? How old is she mentally?
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
