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Hey saffie.

Just heard "today the world stopped turning" Good song but....I feel like I am pasted that. Like the world is starting up agian.
She seems to have been in a "relived" mood since tuesday. Things are good. I'll find out when I go in for the kill.(hug). Today I am goingto take my son to go get her a B-day card.
Her mom said thet she was sad my W did not wantto do anything for her b-day so I talked my W into just getting some take-out and going over her mom's and have dinner. W said that ok.

Husband

My world did stop turning during this. I had just planted my vegetable garden, and I keep up the back yard pretty good. After this started I just stopped doing things. My vegetable garden died. A lot of the relatives were confused because they love my fresh corn and tomatoes and did not understand why for the fist time in 18 years I let my garden go. "Luckily?" I had the hernia and that lead to a good excuse. If this works out I am so glad that I did not tell the Relatives especially my side because they would NEVER trust W again

WOW,

Just looked and it said only 1 viewing I guess that's me.
Guess I'll sign off now

Bye
Husband

Hey husband,

When you come back on. Listen to some more of Thunders tracks - some are really good. The I love you more than Rock and Roll is a good one and more upbeat.


I like them even more since I saw thier lead singer - Danny. Must be in his early fifties but is very scrummy!!!!!!!!

Saffie

h,

Things sound like they are going good. Keep up the good work.. its good that she is up and willing to have take out with you on her special day.

tal

Wow, I let my vegetable garden go too. I put so much care into it before the bomb, just like you. Weird!!! H kept it up all summer without a word.

Things are going great. Try not to let the little things bother you.

[quote=ninajane]My husband did exactly the same. In the heat of an arguement i said if that's how you feel then i'll pack your bags. Ten minutes later i said i didn't mean it, but he took it as his Q to leave. He also insisted that i made him go even though i said i didn't really think it was a good idea. He's back again now, we're still wading through mud, but at least he's here. I must say they can be very clever, putting the blame on you, because they feel guilty. Let it go over you head. sounds like you're keeping your cool.

Nina, lol. the same thing happened with me. I could tell he wanted to go, so I told him to just go then. (this was before I read the DR). Then when I thought he was having a PA with the OW he has been talking too I lost it and told him to not come back. Since then I have repeatedly told him that I wanted him home but he determinedly hangs on to words said in anger.

My reading today

If you have been experiencing any problems with your health lately, follow up with a doctor's appointment. This isn't necessarily an emergency situation -- it is probably your subconscious reminding you that you need to take care of yourself! On that note, how are you doing as far as taking care of your emotional needs? There is no crime in saying 'no' to a friend's invite because you would rather spend some time alone, you know. Make 'you' your number one priority.

Hi H,

Just checking on you...I haven't had a lot of time to read and see how things are going but they seem to going a little better?
I see you have gone back to work!

Hope you have a good week end and your W appreciates you getting dinner and taking it to her moms and spending the time with her. She doesn't know what she is missing and loosing. The little I have read you have come a long way and seem to be more relaxed about things. That is the way I have become too. I have become not so uptight about things. My friends say they have really noticed it and you know I feel better.

Take Care!!!

Hey Penny,

Ya things look good. I will find out how this weekend goes. I am going to push for a hug (it's my w b-day) and for the first time in 6 months tell her verbally “I love you”.
Only then will I find out if she is going to run or stay...



Husband