ROFL. too funny. I do sleep in his tshirts. I guess I'll keep this one OUT of the laundry.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
That's not pathetic at all. When we were really troubled and H was away on business I used to take his one of his T shirts out of the linen pile and sleep with it. I still curl up with his pillow if I am feeling sad in the afternoon and want a snooze.
Saffie....I was just going to say the same thing. I went to my parents home over the weekend and I took one of H's shirts with to sleep in so I could feel at least the smallest amount of connection to him.
The other pathetic thing I do when he's gone out is to smell his shirts or look them over. Do they smell of perfume?.....Do I see unfamiliar hair?? Sounds really bad, but my H had a previous A and I would find OW's long, curly hair on his clothes. Mine was not long and not curly! Made me sick!
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
"The other pathetic thing I do when he's gone out is to smell his shirts or look them over. Do they smell of perfume?.....Do I see unfamiliar hair?? Sounds really bad, but my H had a previous A and I would find OW's long, curly hair on his clothes. Mine was not long and not curly!
Hi Sue, You have got to stop doing that! You are only torturing yourself. I think it would also be considered pursuing. I know it's hard believe me. One of the problems my H has with me is that he feels I am always checking on him which he is right. Of course, he's given me reason but it still has to stop. I have stopped, no more. I realize I can't do anything about his behavior, nor can I control him nor is my "knowing" going to make any difference. Remember, we can only control and change ourselves.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
I sure hope that didn't sound harsh. My apologies if it did. I know how hard it is to not look. I feel much better since deciding to not check on him anymore.
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
LuvMyHusband Me: 41 H: 43 ch: 3 M: 7+ T: 10+ Bomb: EA 8/07, A over phone/net 10/07 Seperated: 9/07 H ended A/EA with OW again on 1/2008 Reconsile: 3/26/2008, H admitted PA
saffie, same here!! I was BLOWN away about H's A, when he confessed. And in the aftermath, I realized there was a ton of signs, I just didn't see them for whatever reason.
