ok here's my thoughts for today and I don't really know from where they come...
all is going pretty well...
with the exception of the fact that I wonder if ow is still around...I know that she is still a customer (I hope that ends with this season) but don't know if there is anymore than that.
trying to not let it bother me...but it does. kinda negates all the good that is going on.
I really do hope that h sells the 5 customers on her street to another company for next season...I just don't want him to even have to be on her street...or see a bill with her name on it. I know she can't be erased from his memory...but would like for her to no longer be a part of his present. I can't keep them from bumping into eachother around town...as h does most of his business in her town...but chances of that are less likely if he doesn't work on her street.
oh well.
today h goes to the c...we'll see if he has anything to say this evening.
tonight I am supposed to go to the ambulance companies monthly meeting.
Quote: I really do hope that h sells the 5 customers on her street to another company for next season...
I certainly don't think it's unreasonable for you to request this of your H. It certainly seems that each of you have started on the path... 1) H decides to go to C. 2) LL decides to cancel appointment with lawyer. 3) H agrees to sell OW biz. 4) LL agrees to ???
Perhaps this is something that can be brought up in a future C appointment (probably not today)?
Quote: kinda negates all the good that is going on.
C'mon, LL, that's not true... Your H has had a "shift." Give it a little more time...give it a few C appointments. And don't write back that it's likely he won't go to more appointments, 'cuz I know that's what you're thinking. Just assume he will. Okay?
not to me...but as I posted yesterday I still had my mom come watch the kids and I went out for a few hours...h apparently forgot my mention of that or maybe I wasn't clear enough...so he called the house while I was out and according to my mom (I know he said she said) he sounded nervous that she was there and commented...I thought she cancelled. my mother kindly let him know that I did...I was just out running errands.
floyd... thanks for stopping in...I wont expect him to say anything about the appointment other than to let me know if he scheduled one for me alone or not. I do have a meeting that I can go to tonight (for the volunteer ambulance) so that will give me something else to do. My fear is that h may want to talk but I wont be here..but then again...his appointment is at 2 so he should be home by 4 and my meeting is not until 7.
there really isn't much he could talk about with c that I don't already know or that c doesn't already know. so I suppose I really have no reason to be nervouse.
LL
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Joined: 02/22/03 Posts: 33 Loc: Florida Keys Re: meet with lawyer friday. [re: Floyd101] 03/05/03 11:49 AM Edit Reply Quote
Floyd, Where can I find your story? Iwould like my grass to be GREENER at home too, maybe I can learn something from you!
Meanwhile, let's try to keep LL calmed down today!
so I went to have some forms needed for volunteering notarized and learned that the meeting for tonight has been canceled due to a schedule conflict so now I will be home tonight. there are plenty of things I can do to keep busy and out of h's hair...read my new book club book (have 3 weeks til we meet) work on a craft I bought to make for a friend. or just go to sleep.
while I was out h chirped my cell...wanting another reminder of directions..when I got home he had left a message prior to calling my cell...sounded rather down...message was soley about directions to the c. maybe he's just nervous...I don't know.
I hope it goes well for him. but I don't know if I should ask or not.
I would ask, but just a general question like "how did it go?". Only cause he seems nervous about it, and does seem to be making an effort, so you want to acknowledge that, but not pry. I have the best feeling about this turning point for you two. Hope I'm right!
LL - I think that RJJ hit it on the head. Leave the door open, show your interest but don't push. Let H do the pushing.
In all of the months that I've been going to solo C sessions, W has not expressed any interest. It could be easily be that she was waiting for me to divulge but given that she has expressed very little to zero interest in my activities over the past few years, I don't feel at all comfortable in talking about it.
If H does accept your invitation to talk about C session, do a lot of listening and validation. It could set the tone for many good things to happen.
