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Yoyo-

Thanks for turning my morning around. I know you're right. This morning was so nice just laying there with him. We haven't done that in a long time.

When I'd asked if he'd continue later tonight and he said yes, he said.....well, depends on whether or not my QB has a good night. I said, oh, so if he does, you'll continue, if he doesn't......? He said....I might not be in the mood. I just smiled and said.....that's what you think. He just smiled and laughed.

I was mad at my H last night, but now I'm starting to doubt whether or not he saw OW. I was sure he had, but other things don't add up to him being with her. Everything I could see showed that he was telling the truth. Guess I'm looking for anything & everything right now.

I want more than anything to hear that ring tone go off when we're together. To see how he'd explain things.

I guess I just have to realize that I probably have a long road ahead of me. The last A was nearly 8 months. I've read and been told by counselors that most A's last 6-8 months. This one has been on for about 4 months. I know I'll stick it out, but it just hurts my heart to think that I might have to go through this for a lot longer.

SueS

Okay.......this is probably pursuing, but I haven't done anything like this in a LONG time.

I said in an earlier post that H was all touchy, feely this morning and said he might finish what he started later.

I just sent my H an email. It has a picture of a lingerie model.....modeling something very similar to something new I just bought.

I said.....

Here's to finishing what you started...........

Think PINK.....as in the color of lingerie.

Hope you're having a good day!

Go CARSON!!!!!!!!!!! (that's the QB that he has tonight). He said that if he has a good game, he'll be in the mood.

TOO MUCH???? Or should I have not done that. I think it will take my H off guard and maybe make him laugh. Something he wouldn't expect from me right now.

SueS

I don't think it's pursuing, I think it enticing him to finish what he started! LOL

If you don't have a sexy pink nightie, go get one before tonight!

Yoyo-

Thanks. I got an email back from my H telling me that my chances weren't looking very well because he'd had some loans fall through this morning.

I emailed back telling him that finishing what he started had nothing to do with work, only how his QB did tonight.

He responded and said that he hopes that goes well, as he's not a very happy person right now (big loans that fell through).

I called and told him that I was sorry that his day wasn't going well & he talked to me about that. I told him that maybe it meant I'd finish instead of him having to do all the work. He just chuckled and said he had to go. I told him that I hoped the rest of the day went better and that I'd talk to him later.

SueS

Sue,
Just play it by ear tonight. You can read his mood. Just look extra hot when he gets home. Just don't come on too strong. Ask him how everything turned out and listen.

Yoyo

Yoyo-

He emailed me and told me that I might get a reprieve. He said that two deals that he thought had been put a hold a few weeks ago are coming through today, so it's not as bad of a day and he thought it was.

I responded and told him that I was happy to hear that and that I hoped his day would get even better.

It was nice to communicate with him like that today. We haven't done that in a long time.

I will still take things easy tonight and just see how it goes.

SueS

Awww...things sound pretty good. Good for you Sue.

A nice meal and good cold beverage may be what the doctor ordered also.

What a roller coaster these past 24 hours. I totally agree, H should have checked on you guys. You had every right to be miffed about that.

Wondering how tonight goes. I hope really well. You deserve it.

Good morning-

Well, H got home last night and we had a good dinner. At one point I could see his frustration with D3 and I. D3 because she wouldn't go to bed......me....just because I didn't have the right information for him. He wasn't real rude, just frustrated. There was a second that I almost blurted out......I know you're not 100% happy here.......you're free to go if you want, but then I caught myself.

I put on my pink nightie. Even if nothing was going to happen, damn it, I wanted to feel good about myself. H started things, but D3 couldn't sleep & kept interrupting. H finally just rolled over and went to sleep. We were intimate this morning, but it just felt strange.....like he was there physically, but nothing else.

It's gloomy here today and I'm just feeling low and angry again. I want to call OW so badly and just tell her to stay away. I want to call OW's H and tell him what's going on. I want to go to their house and say that I know what's going on. I know I can't do that though.

I am not sure what to do or how to feel right now. I'm numb again today. I really don't want to be at work.

When do you have any type of R talk again? How soon?

Have a good day.

SueS

I look at it this way (about not wanting to be at work), if you were home, what would you be doing? I tend to wander around the house, can't really relax, etc, so may as well be at work, you know? As long as you can peek in on us, then you are good to go.

Its a low day for you, and I'm sorry. Hold off on calling anyone (OW and OW's H) for 48 hours, so you can think about it. Remember, usually confronting the OP doesn't bring the confronter any relief, especially if the OP is emotionless. Now, the OW's H? That's another thing. I am still grateful OW's H contacted me, I wish he had done it sooner. But in my case, I knew something physical and emotional was actually happening. Your situation is probably EA only, and who knows where your H is in his fog, he might be trying to space himself from her, and you contacting anyone might really rock that boat.

Try to have a good day.