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GISH,
Just relax. Be the man that she wants. Be pleasant and strong, not needy. Go about your business. Don't call her, let her do the calling. Listen to her, but don't try to put OM down, he's doing a good job of that himself.

You have heard the old saying "Give them enough rope and they will hang their ownself." Wow, I don't think it could be any truer in this case.

Like Saffie said don't get to excited about their actions. Work on your ownself first.

Just got back from my wife's apartment after we tucked our son in bed. My Wife was very depressed today and wouldn't talk much. I knew something was wrong. And she confided in me tonight that her and the OM had an argument today. She waved to him at work this morning and he pretended he didn't see her. He ignored some of her phone calls and acted snotty and gave her an attitude asking how our "family day" was yesterday (I think he was jealous)They were were talking on the cellphone tonight before I got there and she said they had it out again. The one comment he said to her really makes me upset. He told her he doesn't have time for her in his mind all the time. She feels hurt with that comment and I told her I don't blame her. I said I don't care who it is, no one should say that about someone they care about. I feel bad because regardless of what I am going through, I NEVER want to see my wife hurt and I feel so sad that she is.
Before I or anyone else gets too happy though, she may not be ready to give him up yet and I worry that they will make up in the morning again when they see each other. Does anyone think they will make up tommorow and they will be back to normal with their relationship?

Gish,
Just keep supporting her. I know that it is hard, but I think there is a letter on here on the home page in the letters section from a husband who did that exact thing. She soon came to realize the the husband was the real catch instead of the OM. The OM became jealous of the husband because he was such a "good friend" to her.

Yoyo