Well, frank, I can only look at your comments and wonder why the fark you felt it necessary to dredge all this back up after it's been mercifully dead for almost a week?
BND, It is impossible to watch that and not laugh!
Lissie, I love you and I miss you. You bring out the best (and worst!) :-) in everyone. It is the rare gift of a healer. When do you come to visit me?....
Hugs to you, sweet thing.
PositivelyListening ************************************** When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller
Well, frank, I can only look at your comments and wonder why the fark you felt it necessary to dredge all this back up after it's been mercifully dead for almost a week?
Well I can see I didn't write my post properly, thus the confusion. I was not following it this week, but when I saw it today I felt like I needed to point out that the actual ISSUE was not addressed.
Amy raised an important topic. It was a topic that caused all kinds of defensiveness. People were 'hurt'. Everyone was busy trying to make everyone else feel better, and shout down the person with the original observation.
Yes, this 'topic' was 'mercifully dead'. That means it was successfully shouted down and then swept under the table. Because it was uncomfortable. Because it was perceived as a personal attack.
The REAL message was lost.
Erase the NAMEs of the players from your mind, and even whether or not what was said is even true or not. My comments have NOTHING to do with the people involved in the previous discussion.
It doesn't matter because the concept is REAL and important:
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Do we sometimes find ourselves obsessing about someones situation? Do we sometimes put someone on a pedestal so we can cheer for them and forget our own difficult lives? Is that healthy for us?
I know I do sometimes, I find peoples threads that strike a chord with me and I obsess over them. Then I realize it's not healthy and back off.
Nobody posted any comments about THEIR OWN feelings, and how THEY see that sometimes they put a lot of emotional energy into someone elses sitch, to the extent that it can be draining on them, or obsessive, or cause them to lose focus on their own life because they are lost in the 'Soap Opera' of the lives of people on this board.
Why is that? I'm late to the party, and I'll say that I sometimes do. I have to catch myself and back off sometimes.
Look at the flurry of posts a while back in FIB's thread because several people were frantic/furious that FIB's W was not taking care of the kids and they were in danger! FIB' had to post an 'all is good' post to end the speculation.
Then everything stopped, his thread calmed down and the 'energy' moved to another thread.
I know that in our lives right now we need an outlet, a focus, someone to believe in, someone to protect. It helps us step outside ourselves.
I post OBSERVATIONS from the perspective of HOW CAN WE ALL LEARN FROM THIS?
I don't go on the attack. I want everyone to win. You don't win in THIS life if you keep your blinders on and ignore your own issues.
I'm interested in actually HEARING from others who may have seen themselves either 'obsessing' over someones sitch (count me in on that one) or defending someone blindly over issues that aren't issues but are observations that strike a nerve (count me in THERE also)
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Can you you take MY comments as 'not attacking' but as 'thought provoking'?
Well, can you? All of you? That would sure be nice.
Sorry your having a hard time by the way... keep your chin up dude.....
Don't stress man, sometimes we are all late to the party. I believe that all learned a lot from the ongoings here last week. Including Amy..... Life is good again.
I see your point however I did subsequently apologize to fig on a later thread. You know me, man. I don't give two hoots about people slamming me. I can take it. I apologized to fig publicly because I dissed her publicly and later, all by myself, I came to feel that I had been wrong. Simply put, I owed it to her.
Now I think you know me well enough to know exactly what I'd say to anyone else that didn't find that good enough.
