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I bought DB this summer...I didn't even know there was a follow up. DB is still available on amazon, and it was avail at the bookstore I ended up getting it at.

Sue, I haven't read the 5 languages, so can't help you there. I do have both DB and DR (bought DR just a few weeks ago). I like that DR has an infidelity section. helps.

Mark & Morgan

Thank you. I did take a look online and saw that both are available. I think I'd go with DR, as I'd need to re-read the infidelity section!

SueS

SueS,

I have DR and it has helped me immensely. Would be interested in views on the other one though.

Here's my 4 stages of love(sex):

1) The first is Smurf Sex. This happens during the honeymoon period; you both keep doing it until you're blue in the face.

2) The second is Kitchen Sex. This is at the beginning of the marriage; you'll have sex anywhere, anytime, even in the kitchen.

3) The third kind is Bedroom Sex. You've calmed down a bit, perhaps have kids, so you gotta do it in the bedroom.

4) The fourth kind is Hallway Sex. This is the phase in which you pass each other in the hallway and say, "Screw you!"

Hopefully, we will all be back to Smurf love/sex in the near future.

ha! thanks for that, pamar.

Oh Pamar-

Thank you SOOOOO much for making me smile today. I really needed that.

Yes, I hope that we all get back there too.

Talked to H for a few minutes re: our refrigerator problems. I asked him how his day was going. H went on & on about work. It was nice to hear him vent to me, but his falling short of goals at work doesn't help his attitude and likely his view of life in general.

SueS

Hi Sue, I wanted to tell you to hang in there, and relax and have a wonderful weekend with your family. I know you will be thinking of H, but try to focus on the fact that you can't change anything, and H knowing you know things will definately give him things to think about.

Have a great trip!!

Good morning-

lwb....I leave for home in 4 hours and I'm trying to relax and think of not only how this is a needed break for H & I, but how excited D3 is that we're going to Grandma & Grandpa's house. It makes me feel really good the way that they get along. Considering the fact that we've never lived close to them (12 hours previously & now 5 hours apart), she is very close to them. My mom says that D3 is like her shot of energy.

We called H last night at work so D3 could talk to him. He asked what was going on & I said just getting our stuff ready for the weekend & cleaning up a bit. I said D3 wanted to talk to you before she went to bed. He said oh she did? In a tone of...was it really her or you that wanted to call. I said, yeah, she was asking to talk to you. I went into the other room while they talked. D3 called for me telling me that H wanted to talk to me, but she'd shut the phone. I called him back and asked if he was finished talking to her. He said yes, but I asked her to put you back on the phone. He said, all I wanted to say was that I'll see you later. I said, oh, okay then, I'll see you in a little bit, He said...okay.

H typically gets home at about 9:30. He came in around 10:40. I had sat up crying and wondering what he was up to and then I realized, there's nothing I can do about it right now. I decided to go to bed. It wasn't long after that when I heard H come home. He didn't do his typical computer surfing. Just seemed to go out and watch tv and eat. He came to bed later & wanted to be intimate, which I allowed. Later, H got up and went to watch tv. I got up with him. I probably shouldn't have, but I asked him what he did after work. He said that he'd forgotten his phone at work and had to go back to get it. I told him that I was going to bed and then said....honey, you need to start getting more sleep, you haven't been sleeping much lately. He slept close all night and let me snuggle with him. It felt good.

This morning I got up, grabbed our stuff to put it in the vehicle. I woke H up before I left. I said....Have a good weekend, be safe. He lifted his head up and pursed his lips for a kiss. I gave him a kiss, said I love you and I'll talk to you a little later.

H's behavior last night and this morning was different.....quiet, but not angry.

Well, time to work so I can get out of here soon.

SueS

Sue,
I hope you have a wonderful visit with your parents. It sounds like you could use a little TLC. It sounds as if it won't be a problem with your parents to spoil you and your daughter! Have a safe and wonderful trip.

Yoyo

SueS,

Enjoy the trip and let D3 have a wail of a time. Try not to think waht H is doing, as you said, there is nothing you can do about it.

Glad you enjoyed the joke.

Sues..

We'll miss you.. have a great time this wkend.. Enjoy yourself and if at all possible get out by yourself.

i'll be thinking of you!

TAL