It takes TIME - a LOT of it !!!! It has taken me the better part of 18 months to get where I am now and I still have hard days...I too have a very full life and many friends, yet some days it isn' t enough ....Only TIME is your best friend now !
((((((((HUGS))))))))))
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Does time have aqny affect on him? "i jsut cannot believe he can shutoff. my life hasnlt changed - living in the same house, same job, same aqctivities, friends. He hs all new everything, except job. How caqn he shut down? What5 does time mean for him??!?
Well for one, if everything is new - then he has a thrill right there ! There are so many new impulses keeping his mind busy, that he can easily 'ignore' what he has done ! This will wear off one day, but it takes TIME ! I'm sorry sweety, but this really is about Letting them GO and giving it time ! If you are a believer, please pray for strength and patience and have faith in God that he will help you through these times !
Go and find yourself again....use it to re-discover ! You will be thankful and it will be much better spent than wondering about your H...no amount of worrying or wondering has ever brought them back, I'm afraid !
take care xxx
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
It is all just so unfair - I would give my lfie for him - nd he knows it - and he just throws everything qwaqy and leave me to taqke care of ALL "grown-up things. WHERE DID MY WONDERFUL HUSBAND GO?
Today is my birthday, and I wasnt; expecting to hear from him, as painful - and unrealistic as that sounds. Well, I got home from work and noticed he had been at the house to get his mail. WHY DID HE HAVE TO COME HERE TODAY OF ALL DAYS? There wasn't even a note for me. He only comes a couple of times/week, so why couldn;t he just wait until tomorrow? He HAS to know what day it is...why is he hurting me so deliberately?
Hi wl- I am sorry you are hurting so especially on your birthday. You have to take a step back and understand that your H isn't intentionally doing this to you. I don't know whether or not he knows today is your birthday, but my guess is that he didn't remember. Their life, at the moment, is all about them, how they feel and what is going to make them happy. IMO, they are not emotionally equiped to think or care about what we are feeling...how could they function if they really understood what they were putting us through.
Go do something for yourself tonight...even if you just go to the movies by yourself. At least it is an escape from thinking about all of this for a little while.
I know once I got through each birthday or anniversary, things seemed to get a little easier for me. I hope the same is true for you.
