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lwb,

You stand out in the sun whilst OW skulks in the shadows.

Just remember, it takes approximately 20 muscles to frown.......but only 4 to smack someone in the mouth.

Oh TAL......you're so funny. LWB....just what I was thinking. Mark's right too....let her avoid you. I'm sure it's uncomfortable for you, but I'd feel empowered to have her afraid to see me!! Uncomfortable at first, but them empowered.

Okay......I'm editing this because I just saw what Pamar said.....That had to make you laugh!!

You are one strong lady!!

SueS

Hey at least she did not try to stare you down like "my OW" - I always hate that saying (never thought in my life I'd even HAVE and OW - still is surreal to me even after a year!!!!).

You are handling this so well - one classy lady!! I ALWAYS took the high road - made me the better person in the end. Friends who know about our sitch cannot believe the effort I have given - but what was the alternative? Give up? We LBSs do it all just to be able to say in the end we tried our hardest.

It will get easier - trust me. I still see OW 2-3 times a week at the school and she does not bother me anymore - the first time I freaked now it just rolls off my back... I only have one more year and then my 5th grader will be in the middle school and she will have another year at the elementary. Our two oldest will graduate high school together - that should be interesting in 5 yrs or so...

Your H sounds so much like mine - it's amazing how our WAS use the same lines almost word for word... It is an addiction - and they need to not talk to or see the OP for sometime to really be over it. If they do talk it's like starting all over from day one...the marriage builders site has some good info on this...

Take care and hang in there - you are doing awesome considering how fast your sitch is moing along!!

HB

hi morgan and neph.

tired, I could totally take her. lol Plus I am armed a lot of the time. She better fear me....just kidding. lol

Mark, I agree, let HER squirm and sneak out the side door.

Pamar, you are my hero. LOL!!!

Sue, thanks for posting. Honestly I don't even feel uncomfortable anymore. Sad still happens, but not uncomfortable. Her daughter even approached us and said "Hi" and I was fine.

Heartbroken, I posted on your thread a few days back, didn't know if you saw it. And yes, I could NOT believe your OW, staring you down. I have no idea what I would do in that situation. I know for a fact my OW hasn't been to storytime or 'their' park since this is out in the open. I happily go and don't care if she comes or not. I am reclaiming all those places. And yes, our H's are similar. He is still 'addicted', actually admitted that he is still calling BECAUSE she hasn't taken his calls? He is so lost.

LOL, That is so funny about OW avoiding you. At least she know she should be ashamed of herself. I'm so proud of you for being the bigger person and being polite to her little girl. I know some people might night have the same class and grace.

L,
How has you day been? Mine's been pretty normal. Youngest DD is at the county fair with friends. Remember how much fun that was when we were young?

Fairly normal, minus seeing OW, but even that didn't phase me. I am feeling so much better today, and the weather was beautiful.

Aaah yes, to be young........

Glad you had a normal day. Sometimes normal is good.

lwb-

So glad to hear that you're feeling better today. I wish I could say the same about our weather.....kind of gloomy. I love the cool weather though and that's starting here now.

To be young again.....would love it. So many things I'd do over. Probably still marry my H, but do a lot of things after the marriage differently. You know, my age has NEVER bothered me until recently. I know I'm not that old, but when you go to the doctor and you start hearing comments like.....well, I really don't think someone your age needs that much.....blah, blah, blah.....or I went to the doctor about 4 months ago because I had a lot of pain in my leg. She said....well, you are kind of cracking and popping a lot. SHUT UP!! I know I'm almost 40....no need to remind! I hope I have my mom's energy when I'm 65. Love her!

Have a good night!

SueS

Hi Sue. I just posted on your thread. I know you are hitting a rough patch, I'm thinking about you.

What is it with you people? Is this turning into a retirement thread??
What is the difference how old you are physically?? I was always told as long as I can remember to grow up. My answer was always I have plenty of time to be old. So why start now??
Why can't ya go to the fair? Why can't you go to the beach and build sand castles? Have squirt gun fights? Fly a kite? Throw a water a balloon

I warn ya I am not going to have bingo games at my Vegas retreat...

Husband