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You are so right about your kids deserving you to be ok. Now you are focused on what is really important, your kids.

Hi Ian, finally making the time to stop in.

This struck a chord. I totally agree. Not only do your kids deserve that but so do you. You deserve to be okay with moving on.

Yup!

Ya know Ian, I have been ready to move on sooooo many times within the last 2 years I've lost count. BUT-- it wasn't until this past month that I think I really was there and was truely ready and OK.

I think it took me telling H that I knew we would be OK if we got back together not because I knew he had changed, but because I knew I had changed and that I had changed how I reacted to him.

Once I said that to him, I realized that I would be OK without getting back together for the exact same reasons. Not because I was sure I would be OK without him, but because I had changed and was OK with me.

Only you can know if you are ready to move on. But in my humble opinion, there is saying you are ready and then there is coming to the realization that you are moving on and you are ready for it to happen.

Oh- and when are you getting into town?? This time it's my turn to buy. I'm getting a bit of a complex with all these people coming to Vegas and not letting me pay for anything!!!!

Sometimes a girl's just gotta pay!

Hey Sox, long time no hear......

New job, not in the automotive business anymore so no visit to Vegas this year.

So yesterday W comes to S10's soccer game and at half time I went over to her. She was wearing a shirt that had the initials WDYHM on it. I asked her what that meant, she said, "Why do you hate me".

I swear in one minute many many things came to mind as far as how to respond to that, but I didnt. I simply smiled my "boy would I love to say something" smile and walked away.

She came over last night and we had dinner with the kids. I would say it is definitely helping her and my D14 to be more comfortable together which is the result we were looking for, but it sure is uncomfortable for me.

I bragged on D14 and how good she did at pulling her grades up as the first 6 weeks is over and D14 did do a wonderful job of getting her grades to an acceptable level.

Otherwise not a whole lot happening in my life. Staying very busy with work and full time kids at home. I got a call last night that a friends softball team needs a sub tonight so I am going to fill in for them. D14 and D19 are going to come and watch so I hope the old man still has some skills left in his game.


Ian

I have never heard of that acronym before. It sounds very EMO. If you aren't sure what EMO is the definition I heard was this. EMO is Goth for puzzies! Bascically Goth's hate the world and EMO's think the world hates them.

Ian, why is that? why do we feel so uncomfortable around them? I confess, I have no idea. I know that I love my OLD H....this new one, well, he is lacking. I dunno.

Hugs,
Valentine

I'm not sure which I find sadder - that there is apparently a group of people who understand and commonly use this acronym, or that your W is one of them. In any case, Ian, don't let her craziness get to you. You are AWESOME!

Vali,
I believe that I feel so uncomfortable because of all of the underlying garbage. The pending divorce, the pending custody issues, and the fact that she is living like a 21 year old instead of a 34 year old. That is what makes me so uncomfortable, there is only so much acting I can do....

Ian

I think you are right , Ian.

The thing is the ULG (aka Underlying Garbage) keeps on ticking.. forever it seems..

Hey ? I need that on my t-shirt, eh ? IHULG.. have to work on that I guess.. Hang in there buddy !

Tom

IDHYIHYSMLCBS

I dont hate you I hate your silly mid life crisis bull $hit.

Keep your chin up Ian,

Maybe its time to stop acting.