Hi Olive, Sounds like you are doing better. I find it surprising myself that I seem to be sending a different vibe to men also. I don't know what it is, but I think it's pretty amazing after being put through hell. One of my high school classmates said I looked hot as always a few weeks ago...there's no way he would have said that about me 10 years ago. Keep it up and keep looking great...either you'll win your H back or you'll have the guys lined up for dates.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Yes, make sure you look hot on that day. My H was quite concerned and asked questions (much more than usual) when I went out with male friends. The fact that he quickly changed the subject may indicate that: he does not care (unlikely or he would keep talking), he is guilty that's why he feels that he cannot say much to what you are doing. If he brings this up later on, just act as if it is just a normal outing, as with any other girlfriends.
I bought some sexy clothing when M was really bad and I was desparate. Surely that's not ME and now the clothing are all sitting in the closet :-) At least I learnt a lesson: dress nice, but appropiate :-)
M 38, H 38, two sons Met 20 years ago Married 13 years Bomb: Oct, 2006 DB: Started in Dec, 2006 H moved out for 3 weeks in Mar, 2007 H back home and piecing?
OC - considering that my friendship bothered my H even while he was immersed in the A, I'm thinking that it's definately bugging him that I'm even talking to this guy again. Hmmm... Absolutely, I will wear something nice. I will be leaving from work so no sexy clothes on the outside (if you know what I mean). Ha! And, just for the record.. this is without a doubt just a "friend" thing.
Definitely do the "put together" thing. When I was in divorce and H came to pick up the kids for dinner on Wednesday nights I made sure I looked super HOT. From my eyebrows to my toenails... perfume, something a little more low-cut then usual. Oh yeah!!! I still make sure I look good when going out with him or even my girlfriends because I'm determined to keep my husband on his toes.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I bought some sexy clothing when M was really bad and I was desparate. Surely that's not ME and now the clothing are all sitting in the closet :-)
Ourcrisis, I understand how you don't necessarily feel comfortable in those sexy clothes, but make sure you still wear them once in awhile when going out on dates with your H. Every so often it's good to remind him what a hot number he has!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
