sorry for the hi-jack by the way.. he has been asking me for over week daily if I have heard from my attorney. It is just a kick in the stomach so I told him to stop. Also he owes child support and reimbursement for dr bills. I needed his account number to have cs directly debited, to give to my attorney. So he e-mails back and wants to know why he has to pay for Aug cs when he paid for daycare. Well I had other arrangements for them during the summer but he said he would pay it...so I reminded him of that. He just keeps coming up with crap why it is not fair for this or that. I guess it is just getting close to time to sign the papers so he wants to whine. I am not sure why it is upsetting me because it is more proof he is not taking any responsibility or more than he has to. I feel like such a idiot...
Tell him not to call you with this crap. That's what you're both paying lawyers for. You don't sound too close to signing to me with all this stuff still up in the air.
He can't be trusted. Hammer out an agreement regarding all of it or you will be fighting with him every month til the girls are 19.
That's just it, he doesn't have a lawyer and he thinks I am stupid for having one. He say's "we could have done it the easy way, but you never do anything the easy way" I am so easy going.. He just hates that I have an attorney. He said that he was in agreeance with everything until today and now he is pulling all this crap...makes me so mad....
Do not negotiate your own divorce. You will screw yourself because you are not objective.
TRUE DAT!!!!!!! Seriously, let someone that has no emotional attachment do it. I allowed myself to get screwed. We went prose.... I took on a ton of debt PLUS she got a nice payoff. The prose lady was totally "for" women. I had to refinance both my houses and my payments went up over $500 a month. I now know that the refi's were totally unnecessary, and I probably wouldn't have had to pay her anything(both mortgages were very early). I also took on a bunch of credit card debt. I'm not whining, however I realize that had I got a lawyer he/she probably would have been able to tell me those things.
I don't care what you think, as long as it's about me.
Had to jump in somewhere. Just wanted you to know I've had you on my mind. Haven't talked to you much lately. Hope we can have a good heart to heart soon. Feel free to come "hijack" my thread anytime....like you did the other day (lol). You know you are always welcome.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
