Yoyo, I will email you in a bit as I am having family pressure put on me at the moment.
Husband - your sitch is slightly different in that your W is not still actively seeing OM. Will write a bit more later. I can see exactly what Sara is saying tho' and why!!
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Theoden- I think going dark is a great strategy, but very difficult to implement when you are still living with the WAS (as h and I are). My wife and I speak very little to each other anyway, so I guess you could say that we are both going dark.
Agree that the GALs are what will put us over the finish line... make are wives get off the pot, if you will. I just got back from the gym, and I'm taking my middle son to a college football game tonite. The GALs continue here.
The less time the better. They say you can't be a doormat if you don't lie down. Once you lie down and are a doormat it is hard to change that.
The best chance, in my opinion, for making yourself look like an exciting, desirable guy is to have someone else desiring you. She will not think you are any different until she can see you reflected in someone else's admiring eyes. That's why I think you must at least appear to have another woman interest. Or a group of women. Or a group of men who meet and talk to women. Say you meet a friend or two and go out to a bar or club, and talk to women. That may be enough but she has to believe that there is competition for you. That someone else wants you. Otherwise you are just yesterday's newspaper, waiting to go out with the trash.
They say that problem we talked about was the reason Prince Charles preferred Camilla to Diana. When asked in an interview if their problems were sexual, Diana answered that indeed the problems were "geographic". So we are not very different from a real princess.
I am not exactly sure what you were referring to with Yoyo but Diana was stupid when it came to her H. He had had a thing going on with Camilla when he was young but he took too long to make an official move on her and so she went off and got married. Charles then saw what a mistake he had made and just carried on with Camilla and her H turned a blind eye as has gone on in English royal history for years. Diana was the only virgin they could find of good enough blood lines, and stupid enough, to marry Charles to in order to get offspring to continue the Royal line. Diana's older sister had already turned the 'job' down!! I don't think geography was so much of a problem as a complete incompatibility of characters and expectations!!! Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
I am hopping on and off the PC while watching a movie with H. Am on my daughters's pc which is steam powered!!!! I have to pedal to keep it up to speed!!LOL Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
