He is the most generous, kind, thoughftul honest man ever....until MLC.
Want,
sorry you're here.
i don't know about timelines or what works. i would venture to say, looking around here, that not much does work to bring them out of this. many of us have tried everything, literally. we have been told by "emerging" spouses varying responses in what made a difference to them. certainly there are things you can do to push them away, but try not to get into a game of cause and effect by your own actions.
also, my advice would be to read the threads of all.....you will get something out of all of them - many of us are in all different stages of this. we're all going through different things and have different spouses who have gone bonkers and you will gather something from them.
read the resources, be strong, start living your life, and cling to the things in life that enhance your life and bring you happiness. keep your kids and family strong now. be careful with the spending of your h. come here to vent, cry and feel bad. we are here for you.
there are many definitions of mlc, books and resouces. many insights into what caused it and went wrong or contributed to it.
i will say this. the one true factor of mlc (or some other craziness) that somewhat separates from a WAS, and nearly all can agree to this and have experienced this: total personality change in many facets of their life, including those that do not involve you.
that's usually the point where you start to think: something else is going on here, b/c that is SO out of character...and this has nothign to do with me...they are destroying their own life and it's not marital distress.
so be prepared to see this, and try not to take it personally...easier said than done.
