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Well, I don't want to jinks anything, but I think I should be moving to Piecing. I don't feel comfortable doing that until he tells her it is over. He says he has been crafting words and situations in which to tell her about his decision not to continue their relationship and that it will happen shortly after her birthday. I must continue to have patience. I guess I can wait another week or two. I have already waited so long.

I'm still GALing and got a HUGH bouquet of flowers from my girlfriends last night. I brought them home and put them in a vase right in the middle of the table. H said, wow those are nice flowers (he happened to be at the house when I arrived). All I said was yes, thank you.

We will be golfing after work this afternoon. Other then golf on Sunday, we don't have any plans. Of course this is OW's birthday week-end. I'm just going to play it cool. He tells me that he has withdrawn from her a lot emotionally and isn't even attracted to her very much anymore.

I just keep on praying and I pray for each and everyone of you. My heart aches for all of you.

Faith

Faith, I am so happy for you!!!

have faith -- i would love to hear more about ur story. it gave me hope. i have been in this since december - he left in march -other woman came into picture in late april early may- tried to commit suicide in june- called crying in august - back with ow by labor day....and me trying to move forward....

please tell me more about the "bf" of yours..can u share what has worked and hasnt worked? more importnat what didnt work!!

Lwb - Thanks you. I just hope we continue to progress forward and that he actually tells her soon. I have not had time to get caught up on your thread, but will today or tomorrow. I know H is staying with Dad now, but that was about the last time I had time to read.

Faith

Cagzmom - If you look at my link to my second thread at the very beginning it tells you in brief my sitch. I also responded to you on your thread earlier this month with some of the details.

What didn't work was trying to convince him that he was making a mistake. Being too available. Anytime he wanted to be with me, I was there. Trying to hurry the process along. Snooping.

What worked (or at least seems to) was trying to show him that if we were back together, he would not have to walk on egg shells. Being nice and doing things for him when he was around. Laughling and wearing sexy clothes when we when out. Being mysterious. Not telling him where I went or when I was going to be home. Alluding to golfing with another man (this is when I really started to see changes in him). Turning him down for dinner on a Saturday night by telling him I already had plans. But non of this would have worked if he was not past the point of infatuation with the OW. It takes time and it doesn't happen on our time schedule. I think that when they start acting like they are still interested in you and really don't know what to do, they open their eyes and start seeing you differently.

You just need to continue to move forward without anger being vented towards him. Let him see that you are making a life without him, but tell him that you are still open to working it out.

I hope this helps and I pray for you and everyone else on this board. I'm not out of the woods yet, but I can see light.

Faith