Hope you have a good time with your friends tonight -- do your best to enjoy yourself and not think about H. Make yourself happy by being you and reveling in that. Remember that H can't make you happy -- only you can.
I'm sure those 21-25 yr old guys will be elated to be with a 29 yr old hottie -- just make sure that you don't make choices that you will later regret if the opportunity for reconciliation arises. Know where you draw the line with repairing your R/M, and create clear boundaries for yourself.
I'm always such a party pooper sometimes, aren't I?
OK, in addition to echoing GD's sentiments (and I think we both know you have nothing planned) -- don't rule old the older crowd, as the semi-great Toby Keith says, "I'm not as good as I once was, but I'm as good once, as I ever was."
Have a good time. Sounds like your H is at least making it easy for you to detach.
Good job on handling the kid -- it is his time and he can use it as he wishes. Just a shame he couldn't extend you the courtesy of asking if you'd like to be with her if he's going to be out. On the flip side, do you really want to watch your D so that your H can go out (if that's what he's doing) with another (non-boobshirt wearing) woman.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
No boob shirts in sight. My college pals are very serious and somewhat uptight...thats what you get for going to a serious university here in Boston.
Def no plans for that kind of fun just yet. Maybe just some socializing and flirting. I am sort of waiting for the "last call" on reconcillation before jumping back in the pond. I am sure you two are dipping your toes in too, but thats about all I am interested in. I don't even want to get or give phone numbers as it seems a little too much. Maybe just some casual chatter at the local pub. Never hurts the ego.
For the record, i would not discount an older man but when I am ready I will probably have to try out a no strings man-child boy toy before heading out into the "real world". They seem to have lower expectations. Besides, I was totally taken by the boy that asked me on that pub crawl!
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.
The idea of a boy-toy always sounds very appealing. Last Friday, I got to do a body shot of jello off of the little cutie 24 year old bartender. I was also hoping to find the one that I met earlier in the year that was at the bar that is now right down the road from my house but dang that must have been the only night he was there. If any of you watched the show Heroes, he looked alot like the guy Isaac Mendez. He was the painter that saw the future. YOW!!!!!
I need to call this new OM tonight see if wants to meet me for drinks tomorrow night since H is going to come and see the kids. OM better watch cuz I am feeling a little pent up too.
Me: 41 H: 39 D: 6 S: 4 M-14 T-16 first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.) second bomb: 6-4-2007 (found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything) Kelley
It was so funny last spring before the sh*t hit the fan my daughter picked up a toy from daycare and said look I got a boy toy. I told her yeah mommy wants one of them too. Then we were in the car and she said you don't have a boy toy, I told her yeah don't rub it in. Oh the things that you can say to kids that just go right over their head.
Me: 41 H: 39 D: 6 S: 4 M-14 T-16 first bomb: 5-12-07 (M dead doesn't really want to work things out.) second bomb: 6-4-2007 (found note he wrote about wanting desperately to be with OW and would have to give up everything) Kelley
I was also hoping to find the one that I met earlier in the year that was at the bar that is now right down the road from my house but dang that must have been the only night he was there. If any of you watched the show Heroes, he looked alot like the guy Isaac Mendez. He was the painter that saw the future. YOW!!!!!