I don't know why I am compelled to speak that way to you?? but anyway..found you drifting to page three...we have a busy neighborhood these days...wondering how you are doing?
Hey everyone. Yeah, I've been AWOL, so to speak. Actually, I've been an EXTREMELY busy Jethro these days. Work has been very demanding, so I haven't even been in the office...out at client sites. Been getting home late and barely have energy to visit with the family, let alone hit the BB. And now I think I'm getting sick... I'm still bogged down, but will try to do some catchup this weekend.
A mini-update. The other day I again mentioned to my W how it would be nice to hear ILY. I told myself I wouldn't bring it up again, but the opportunity was there so I took it. Anyway, I simply said that if she loved me she'd tell me. Her response was that she did love me and that she knew she should say it more often! So, since then, I've heard it a couple of times. She's really listening... Also, when I came home the other night I noticed Love Languages open on the bed, so she's been reading that too.
Day by day she's coming around...and has been very giving and present lately. I can't really ask for anything more than that. Honestly, I'd have to say that if weren't for the A, we'd have a pretty good M and R right now. So, now I have to do my best to get past the A.
Quoting RJJ:Your song portrays such feeling - you are a talented artist!A friend of mine just picked up guitar in the last year - the other week, I was over at his place (it's his wife I went to the last play with) and he was playing "Closer to fine" (Indigo Girls). I just started singing along. I don't play an instrument, but he has inspired me - maybe it's not too late for me. I think it would be very therapeutic.
Thanks, RJJ. You're such a sweetie! You know, it's never too late to get into music. And yes, it is quite therapeutic. I feel relaxed after tearing it up on my axe...
Quoting SB:Jethro, your song could be our anthem.
I'm flattered, but I wish it otherwise...
Quoting PNT:Many years ago, my mom wrote a bunch of songs. She had me sing them onto a tape for her. Then she sent these tapes in to a company with professional musicians who recorded the songs for her.
Would you be interested in doing something like that with your music?
I've thought about it. We've made a few CDs of our own music, but I feel somewhat self-conscious about sending them to anyone. I enjoy it as a hobby and don't really have the motivation to pursue a career in music. My son (9) just started playing piano about five months ago and can already play Moonlight Sonata. Man, it sounds beautiful...even close my eyes when I listen.
I would love to hear some of your recordings. Do you have them on your computer? Maybe you could e-mail something to me? I can send you another e-mail address for me, that doesn't have such a limited capacity.
That's impressive about your son on the piano - my d took lessons for a couple of years, but she was quite young (5, 6) and stopped before she really got the hang of it. Maybe it's time to try again. Then I can learn guitar and we can play together! If only there were twice as many hours in a day...
Jethro, It looks like we have a lot of talented people on the bb. My S16 also plays guitar, drums, violin, and writes lyrics and sings for his band. I am so proud of him. I talk about him often on my posts.
Glad to hear that W is hearing you, and that you started getting ILY's. That must feel really great! I hope I can hear that again someday soon.
I also think it is great that she is reading FLL. That is an excellent book, and it shows a lot about her commitment to your M.
You sound great!! Keep the faith!!
mal (aka Cindy -- I'm just gonna kiss the toad and get it over with!! )
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Jethro...glad to hear things are pretty good right now..you know the routine..slow..patient..
Seem like what I am hearing is as time goes on it gets easier and easier with the piecing thing. I hope for that day that I can apply some of what I have learned, I guess I am, only h is not at home.
Just about finished Love Languages tonight, kind of looking forward to talking with H about it.
I think that's a very good sign that you W was reading it and making an effort...after all when our efforts are rewarded in our own LL, it's not much of an "effort" after all .
And thanks for the insights into the exhaustion. I'm a bit oversensitive to "early sleep abandonment" as my former fiance did the same thing for years before he left me .
Really, though, I'm not a boring person, (yawn)... ask anyone I kn....ZZZZZZZZZZZZ....wha???
Okay, I had an interesting insight tonight. When I start feeling crappy about her A, I become distant. She knows the look on my face and can read me. Her way of handling the situation is to try and distract me with sexual innuendo (or by even "performing"). Now, I've told her before how sex is important to me...yada...yada, but I find it interesting that this is her "distraction." Hmmmm...not sure if this is healthy or not...on my part as well as hers. Any thoughts? I suppose she may simply be replacing something bad with something good...
Quoting RJJ:Maybe you could e-mail something to me?
You sure know how to flatter a guy...wish it worked on your H. In any case, I'd be happy to send you a file, but I don't have any available that I can send. My FIL uses the native format of the recording program to produce the CDs. Sorry. If he does end up doing it, you'll be the first to receive some copies. BTW, RJJ, I have asked him about it in the past for the very purpose of sending a couple to my friends, but alas, he has little time...
Quoting RJJ:How is your W doing with her anxiety?
She really hasn't had an episode since. She's been close a couple of times, but it hasn't happened. Almost did the other night when we were watching the movie "Joy Ride." Ever see that? It's pretty tense and she actually had to get up.
Quoting MAL:I also think it is great that she is reading FLL. That is an excellent book, and it shows a lot about her commitment to your M.
Agreed. It's actually kind of funny because I can almost tell when she's testing out a "love language."
Quoting Sue:I hope for that day that I can apply some of what I have learned, I guess I am, only h is not at home.
My fingers are crossed for you, Sue...
Quoting SB:Really, though, I'm not a boring person, (yawn)... ask anyone I kn....ZZZZZZZZZZZZ....wha???
LOL!!!
Take care all! I'm signing off early tonight as I visited my sister today and am having some allergy difficulties. She has 4 cats and a giant dog! It's a pet-dander haven!
Quoting jethro:Her way of handling the situation is to try and distract me with sexual innuendo (or by even "performing"). Now, I've told her before how sex is important to me...yada...yada, but I find it interesting that this is her "distraction." Hmmmm...not sure if this is healthy or not...on my part as well as hers. Any thoughts?
This is something I wouldn't bother to analyze!
Quote: My FIL uses the native format of the recording program to produce the CDs. Sorry. If he does end up doing it, you'll be the first to receive some copies.
Thanks, Jethro. I will send you my "real" e-mail address.
Happy Spring! -or do you notice spring down there? Oh well, Happy Spring anyway!
I'm still bogged down, but will try to do some catchup this weekend.
So, since then, I've heard it a couple of times. She's really listening... Also, when I came home the other night I noticed Love Languages open on the bed, so she's been reading that too.
I'm flattered, but I wish it otherwise...
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In any case, I'd be happy to send you a file, but I don't have any available that I can send. My FIL uses the native format of the recording program to produce the CDs. Sorry. If he does end up doing it, you'll be the first to receive some copies. BTW, RJJ, I have asked him about it in the past for the very purpose of sending a couple to my friends, but alas, he has little time...
. It sure would be a 180 on his part.