I haven't posted to you and I am not familiar with your sitch, but I am so sorry for your news - for you and for your kids. It's unimaginable the things our spouses put us through, yet here we all are...
Please remember that you WILL find your own happiness in time. I know it's hard, but be strong for your kids, as this is happening to them too. You'll get through this - like you've gotten through the rest of it.
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M: 33 MLC/WAH: 33 M 6 yrs, together 12 2 kids: 5,2 Bomb #1: 4/06 - "I don't love you anymore", almost S Bomb #2: 7/06 - EA/PA since late 05, kicked H out/S Bomb #3: 1/07 - "No longer have any feelings for you. It's over.", living w/OW, no talk of D
Ugh, I am so mad! You aren't even divorced yet, jerk!
He is going to regret all of this some day. He probably thinks this will validate the relationship and his choice to abandon his family but it will not and he will not end up happy, he is a messed up dude. All the more proof you deserve SO much better and you will have so much better. You are one rockin and fabulous babe and time will bring you the love of your life, you have not yet had it but you will.
Oh sweetie, I am just so sorry. I know the same thing will happen top me one day and I don't know how I will cope, I hope I will be as cool and graceful as you. Your email showed tremendous strength and dignity.
they didn't get married and now he is in trouble with the law... big suprise!!!!
it was so hard and I felt sucker punched. it made me feel like it really was me and not him.
now...a year or so later...I realize it really was me!!!
I was too good, too powerful, my soul was too wonderful and it was Someone watching out for me. Someone was tired of me being down and the place where I am now is a place that I didn't even know existed.
I was limited by my own imagination.
sometimes the answers to our prayers are not the answers we initially want....they are better than we could even imagine.
Know that this is about you and your beauty and magnificent soul. It is about the fact that you are on a different level.
I know that it seems like everytime we get to a place where we are feeling o.k., yet another bomb drops.
That is exactly what I was just thinking. There I was, doing well - at last - and now this. F*CK! Will it never end?
Thank you all for being here for me - you are all such a blessing. I just want this pain to end, and I feel like it never will.
I cancelled my afternoon class. I actually went in and then I told them what happened. I know that probably sounds strange, since most teachers wouldn't say that kind of thing, but these are second year (college) students, and I've had a lot of them before. Honestly, I really don't care that they know.
They were very sweet, actually. The girls all suggested crashing the wedding, and the boys wanted to beat him up!! They couldn't believe he'd emailed me.
I think what the hurts the most about all this is that he wouldn't give "us" another try, but he is willing to pledge his love to someone else. How in the hell did she get him to propose? I guess she could be pregnant. They haven't even been together for a year yet!
Ugh - what next? My kids will probably end up with a nice little half-brother or half-sister - and I'm the one who wanted more kids - he didn't.
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I am so sorry for this new shock. I totally understand your having dreaded it, and now you have to process it. I don't know how it will impact you, but if you find yourself sliding back into grief for awhile, I hope you can be really gentle to yourself until you work back into detachment.
I think it is terrific that you told your students. I think they respect and appreciate us even more when they see as as human beings with lives and pains of our own. Not that it is an excuse for anything...just an added dimension to their "take" on us.
Your reply to H was truly classy. I doubt I could ever have done as well.
Nic - I am not too familiar with your situation, but your title caught my eye.....
I can't even imagine what you are going through - I am so new at this and haven't even thought about the position that you are in.
I am so, so sorry for what he said and how he said it. Again, I don't know your situation...but an email? Gimme a break! Have a little class...have a little courage....sheesh....
I don't know how old your kids are, but I would think that this news will be a shock to them as well. Take care of them and take care of yourself.
Thinking about you, and hoping and praying for strength for you...
