Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums We're separated--What Now? There and Back, #6

well that was weird, I typed a whole post out on my last thread, hit submit, and my topic locked w/o posting it...and the whole thing I typed out was lost to the ether. very very strange.

link to last thread

in an nutshell, I tried to have a good cry after I posted my previous post. I did. even got my wedding album out of hiding so I could go thru it and have a good wallow. had just started in when my sister called...cried a bit to her, chatted, hung up, friend called, then another and before I knew it, I was feeling much, much better. thanks, ladies.

just watched the pilot of arrested development...very funny show, looking forward to the rest of it over the next couple of months.

called the kids to say goodnight and they were so cute, it put a huge smile on my face. even h sounded okay...both of us sound fine again, not irritated, almost like a storm that didn't properly develop passed on by. nothing has changed in reality, but I feel like I'm okay again at least. and will continue to be okay.

he did ask about my plans for the weekend, and I did sort of tell him (home chilling tonight, out with a friend tomorrow night). I need to stop that again, wasn't really thinking when I told him. the "no talking about social lives" works for me, so no more.

going to take it easy the rest of tonight, then tomorrow its back to the gym, some housework, a home depot run, then out into the city with a friend of mine. really looking forward to that...I need a good night out.

I hope you have a great Saturday. You know, its weird, sometimes you feel like wallowing, then a friend calls, a TV show comes on, whatever, and that feels so much better.

I was crying when I logged on here, and now I feel better. Go figure.

Yes, the emotions come like waves. They sneak up on you, swallow you, then ease away just like they came. Sometimes it is rather calm, and sometimes its a storm- one huge wave after another til you are sure you will drown. Then the sun comes out and you know you will be ok.

This place is definitely a life boat full of cute life guards. I would still be chasing H around if it wasn't for all of you.

glad you felt a little better, lwb. this place can help, can't it. good description, neph, about things coming in waves. exactly what it feels like.

woke up at 6 and let myself fall back to sleep till just past 7:30. bliss. see, another silver lining. its rainy this morning, need to head to the gym but might just take it easy for a bit before I do. losing a bit of interest in the home depot run. curling up on the couch with a good book is starting to sound really, really good. hmmmm

last night I did that for a while. I even lit some candles on my mantel and it all looked so pretty. still lonely, but starting to feel like I'm heading back into detach-mode a bit.

looking forward to tonight!

Sorry about the lonely feelings. Our house was so cold last night and it made me lonely for some reason too. Its just warmer when the whole family is here.

Scratch Home Depot, do the gym, then the book on the couch.

Lonely sounds like the theme here. I think there passes a time when we feel like a third wheel to our couple friends but are we ready to hang out with single friends? I have a mix of both, but of course most of my friends are family folks. Sometimes I feel like a I am borrowing them or they are supporting me through this. It used to be just about being together and having fun, making plans. It feels different now, like people are making accomodations. That could just be my own insecurity too.

Know what you mean about the third wheel thing, MK. We're in limbo in this area, I guess. I guess the next step might be single people with kids, but I don't want to go looking for that group yet.

Curling up with a good book sounds nice.

I feel that way with my best friend and husband, like they are supporting me but I am taking them from their family time. I think its my insecurity too.

yep, feel the same way. everyone I know is married, I don't even know any single people, at least not around here. Nikki gave me some great ideas for meeting others so when things slow down a bit around here, I may just try that route. I don't think they need to be single people or even people with kids...just people I share an common interest in. I'm still trying to remember what I like to do, as weird as that sounds, outside of kids/family stuff. it seems like I really have lost a lot of my identity over the years.

That's true morgan. I guess when you make friends, its basically through common interests. Doesn't have to be single, married, or whatever.

Let's think of things we like to do..........