Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums Infidelity/Extramarital Affairs/Jealousy Am I piecing yet #2

Well, it looks like I locked my thread.

Yesterday was pretty uneventful. So far today H has asked if I wanted to meet for lunch in the park tomorrow. I said no I am busy since tomorrow is my last day at work before vacation, but thank you.

H is going to be at the house tonight. He wanted to know if I would be there and I said no. He just smiled and looked at me. So I am going to dinner and perhaps a movie with a couple of friends. H thinks it is the imaginary bf.

Nothing really has changed. I hope this next weeks vacation will really get us moving in the right direction. I am getting very weary from all of this.

Faith

So he is for sure going on the trip!? That's great. I hope its a big turnaround for you guys.

I agree, DB'ing is exhausting. I just want my normal life back.

I think you are on your way to piecing.

Keep up the mystery it seems to be working.

Do accept some invitations though.

Yes ,DBing is exausting But I will do it until the day I dye because I don't want my old Life back I want a new, better one with H.

JAK

Lwb - Yes he is going with me on vacation, for sure. We will spend 5 1/2 hours driving there and the same on the way back. I plan on getting the 5 Love Languages CD and listening to it while we drive. I mentioned this to him before and he didn't seem to object. I told him that it would be good to listen to whether we are together or not. I too hope that this is the turn around week.

jak - You are right about the mystery working. He was at the house when I got home last night. He took a look at me and said Wow, you look nice. I understand what you mean about DBing for the rest of our lives. I too plan on doing that, however I think it will be easier when my heart doesn't feel like it is so exposed. When I am more secure in our relationship.

Thank you both for your input. It means so much to all of us to know there are others out there who we can talk to that don't judge us and think we are idiots for hanging in there waiting for them to get their heads out of there a!@.


Faith

Hey faith,

I liked the book "the 5 Love Languages" there is a story about how I got it.
Enjoy it with your H. My W has not read it.

Husband - I have the book and have read a lot of it, but unfortunately, my H is not much of a reader and since I have him captive for 11 hours, (total driving hours to/from) I thought I would take advantage and buy the CD's. We will be out in the middle of nowhere most of the ride.

I think I already know what love language I am, but I can't figure out his. You would think after 18 years I would be able to.

Maybe you can get your W the CD's as a gift. My C suggested that I read it regardless of who I'm with, just so I know my own Love Language.

Faith

HF,

Just don't try to push the Cd's on H he may run.

Maybe ask him if he'll just do the test.

Have a great time on your trip.

JAK

ANd when the time id right ask for what you want!

JAK

JAK

Good advice. I will take them along, and I will ask him if he is interested in listening to them. I will tell him that I'm ok with it if he is not interested.

Thanks

Faith

Faith,

I am just curious....

Has he said anything at all about why the sex has been nonexistent between you guys for so long? That is a long time for a man to go without sex. Or is this a physical affair?

Also is it possible he could be going through a mid life crisis? Like maybe there could be some things bothering him. In a way it surprises me that his woman is so much younger. Could he be maybe having regrets about never having children? Just curious if he ever mentioned anything?