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This is a vey difficult situation. Do you want him home or want him gone? If you read DR or DB the book shows that a divorce will not solve any of your problems so kicking him out, yelling at him, doing anything punitive, looking unnattractive will get you closer to a divorce. These dramatic actions will make your H think it would be easier to leave and start over with someone who understands him better at this moment. You could be that person. It is just a switch. It is never too late. Rehearse your reaction. Our H's are the same age and I do feel emotionally abused and verbally abused by my H during his MLC. His life is not normal and he has also chosen being homeless too so I know your frustration. Your home is a lot more full than mine so you will need a lot more help. Please control your anger and try to be supportive. It seems cruel but think of this MLC as a script and you need to rehearse your reaction. I was also depressed with obsessive thoughts and anxiety but I avoided drugs because that is how I roll, you can look into it as there are meds that will not make you less maternal or tired, I hear.