Good for you! It's ok to not like him! The more you allow yourself to have whatever feelings are there, the easier it will be to process and work through it!
Here is a good one!
I met someone. Actually I've known him for a long time and I've run into him here and there during these past months. He's been very kind. His mom is an aide at my kid's school. She talked w/my sister about how nice it would be for the two of us to get to know each other. BLEH!
Well, I went to my boys' soccer game Wednesday night and he was there! He was with his mom to watch his nephew play (I've never seen him at one of these before!) He asked if I wanted to sit in the shade w/them. The good part is H was already sitting along the field in the sun. I was torn. I knew if I didn't sit by H (which I always have) he would be jerky. BUT, I also knew that I didn't really want to and I enjoy Brandon's company and wanted to sit and talk w/him.
So, I said yes and went over to see D8 on H's lap. I told H I was going to sit in the shade and he said:
"I'm sure you are!" really shi**y.
I said "It's too hot in the sun"
He said "Oh yeah, it's way tooooo hot."
So, I spent the entire game talking w/Brandon. He asked a lot about me and what I do and found out we have a lot in commmon. He just finished school and got his BS degree and is in a management position at a local business. He ride a Harley and has been all over the states!
He has been divorce for about a year and has a D9. That is all it was...just talking. BUT, it was just so different having someone interested in me and what I do and what I like. Unlike H who only cares about H!
So, H was ok after the game and pretty cold to me the next morning.
Cinders - the thing is I am getting over that dislike phase now. I don't feel anger or sadness...just indifference. That comes with the whole journey!
Why wasn't I invited for pizza????????????????????????????
Was it pineapple and ham? MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM....my favorite!
Me-BS 38 X-WS 36 Separated 11/15/2006 Filed for D 8/1/2007 Divorce Final 12/21/2007 S13, S13 (twins), D9 Married 13 Yrs Together 20 Yrs
WooHoo Bam- I tell you, a little ego boost goes a long way. Enjoy the attention. I know you say BLEH, but I am starting to think about what it would be like to date if one of us ever files. I would still prefer to work things out with my H, but I'm not going to wait forever. I know many people feel that you shouldn't jump right in, that you need to mourn the loss of your M and heal...but really haven't we been doing that all along? Is there an appropriate waiting period? Just curious what your thought are on the subject.
Things sound crazy busy for you...I prefer it that way...less time to dwell on things. Do you know when you will be moving into your new house yet?
I want to be invited to the next pizza party! I like sausage and mushroom on a thin crust!!!
